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| Tue, 03-27-2007 - 8:04pm |
Been living together for over a year. Planning our future together and he even gave me a ring. Things have been purchased together for example, different insurances for camping trailor, life insurance etc. All of a sudden this last month things start to change. You see we both have kids from a previous marriage. Him 2 and me 2. Mine live with us. My girls are teenagers that are pretty much teenagers in the way that they act and talk. He says that they don't show him any respect. Boloyne. His visit pretty much when they want something. And when they were at our house they totally ignored me unless they wanted something or I asked him a question.
Our sex life was great in the beginning then when down hill.... not my issue.
Boom all of a sudden things escalated. It got to the point that he would ignore me and just play poker online. I got tire of looking at the back of his head and asked him what was wrong.
He finally gave in after me asking him over and over and his response... "I don't think it's going to work. I would rather us break up now then it happen later on."
I was so confused as to what the heck was happening. I asked him when he was leaving. His response in a week. When he moved in we had desided that we would keep his furniture and give mine away. He now wants his back... After camping season and he gets his own place... but I can USE the the furniture right now till then.
I am so angry over all of this. To top it off a friend of mine found his picture online through a dating sight. The picture was taken when we were living together.
We have been appart now for a week. I am angry,sad and a thousand other emotions all at once.
Anyone anyone any advise...I thought that this one was Mr. Right. How could I have been so wrong?
Angry Mom
Our sex life was great in the beginning then when down hill.... not my issue.
Boom all of a sudden things escalated. It got to the point that he would ignore me and just play poker online. I got tire of looking at the back of his head and asked him what was wrong.
He finally gave in after me asking him over and over and his response... "I don't think it's going to work. I would rather us break up now then it happen later on."
I was so confused as to what the heck was happening. I asked him when he was leaving. His response in a week. When he moved in we had desided that we would keep his furniture and give mine away. He now wants his back... After camping season and he gets his own place... but I can USE the the furniture right now till then.
I am so angry over all of this. To top it off a friend of mine found his picture online through a dating sight. The picture was taken when we were living together.
We have been appart now for a week. I am angry,sad and a thousand other emotions all at once.
Anyone anyone any advise...I thought that this one was Mr. Right. How could I have been so wrong?
Angry Mom

Oh honey - that sucks...but, at least you are DONE with it NOW instead of later...if the 2 of you would've gotten married, it would be MUCH MUCH worse when the break-up came around.
I know you are hurting and it royally sucks that your friend found his pic online on a dating site! What a jerk :( Sounds like you are better off without him, even though it may not feel that way now. Give yourself time - and read "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt. That book is like the BIBLE of BREAKUPS. Literally. It's great, funny, witty and has a lot of insight. Start a no-contact policy and stick to it. You'll be ok and we're all here for you!!!
It's so tough dating with teenagers - I have a 14 yr old daughter who has her fair share of moodiness and typical 'teenage girl' behavior. The hardest part is that you HAVE TO BE a role model and sometimes we (as moms and WOMEN) don't make the smartest choices - which unfortunately sets a bad example for our girls. I, for one, would SHOOT MY DAUGHTER if she let some man treat her the way I've been treated in the past!!!