breaking up in anger

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2007
breaking up in anger
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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 9:39am
Is blasting your ex verbally a good idea when breaking up? A friend of mine has been dating this guy for several months and throughout has been unhappy with his inconsiderate behavior. She finally told him off over the phone and felt really good and strong about doing so. However, she is now upset with me for not being more supportive of her method. Although I have told her I thought this guy was taking her for granted, I'm not sure attacking him was the best way to handle things, but I didn't tell her this. I did say maybe she could look at her own role in the relationship and try to learn from that, which made her angry. She did try really hard to make the relationship work and finally "snapped." Was this an overreaction? Could things have been handled in a better way? And was I being insensitive in my response?
thanks for any and all opinions. i just hope to learn something from this and be a better friend.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 11:40am

I think the thing that needs to be remembered is that *she* was the one constantly getting her feelings hurt by him, being taken for granted by him and feeling the very damaging effects of that.

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