breaking up is the answer?

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Registered: 02-26-2005
breaking up is the answer?
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 6:59pm

My bf and I been so intimate for more than a year now. He set me to his schedule and to his daughter that until now I haven't met and his parents doesn't know me . His bestfriend in highschool knew me,and some of his friends. He is not shy or hiding me around going to parties, malls or going around. He told me that his daughter knows me and already see me in picture but we haven't meet. I wan't to settle down. A single like me who is 36 is really cannot wait to have a family of my own. I work on hard on this to work the relationship, we're happy going out but I want more than that like a family. He told me that he is serious with me and it will takes time that soon I will meet her daughter..that promise was since January and now is March. I don't know until when I should wait or I don't know what is the right to tell him that will convince him to decide when I already told him that we need to move to a certain level...I was so open with him,to my friends and from my family..I'm so proud of him. Help me on what should I do.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 03-11-2007 - 7:18pm

Hi marielle,


You've been intimate for a year...how serious do you consider your relationship?

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Registered: 02-26-2005
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 10:55pm
He told me he is serious with me and I told him before that I'm looking for a serious relationship. Whenever I ask him he's just ignoring everything...he just always said soon,soon,soon as if I feel like begging. The reason I'm doing this is just to feel he doesn't need to hide that he have a girlfriend and have a growing relationship,I feel like stranger and a mistress when I should not. He told me all about his family & his divorce but what I don't understand is..he is sharing everything he does but scheduling our meetings when the daughter is not around and cannot call me "dear" on the phone when his parents is around cuz they don't know he have a girlfriend, to think that he is 40 yr old man and I am 35 very much single who's longing to have a healthy and happy family someday.
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Registered: 02-26-2005
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 11:39pm
Hi, I got so many same answers and really help me a lot. Some ideas that I need to do in my life. We broke up for just a few days and he just got back,giving him the chance. Since I'm planning to go for a trip without him by my side, been a long time plan. Now, he promise before I go that he'll introduce me to his child and he'll not be here right now in front of me if he is afraid of commitment.I'm no longer gonna wait for what he said,though it really made me happy to hear those words from him. I'll keep my eyes open for some opportunity and make reservations for myself. If that another step meeting his child will come true..it means ..this is real. Not only a words from mouth but it comes from the heart. Thank you and this chat room ivillage.com really a great help for me.