breaking up, both parties still in love

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Registered: 10-08-2005
breaking up, both parties still in love
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Sat, 12-03-2005 - 8:35pm

Me and my boyfriend of 1 year broke up today. We are both young (me 21, him 24). We feel like we are meant to be together. But we are both scared that, since we are so young, we might be missing something. We want to live a little bit. Almost as if we need to go on a solo adventure independantly and see what's out there. It tore our hearts out, but we feel like we need to be on our own, do some personal growth. Maybe our paths lead back to one another. We beleive we will meet again, but right now i feel like someone cut my body in half and I cannot function. Almost as if I had lost my identity. Everything I ever believed in, seems so blurry and uncertain. I know I need this personal growth, the proof of that is that I forgot about my individuality for so long that now that I am alone by myself, I feel broken and useless. It is so hard because we are still in love, but we need to do this.

Anybody ever broke up with someone they still loved because of outside circumstances?

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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 7:12am
yes, we split because of age and distance..but still love each other...ending it has been a major challenge...
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Registered: 05-06-2003
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 12:47pm

Welcome kittycatt ...


While I've not had this experience myself, I just wanted to add my 2 cents. I think it's very mature and caring of both you and your boyfriend to allow each this to happen.

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