Breaking up IS FEELING LIKE YOUR DYING

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Registered: 02-11-2006
Breaking up IS FEELING LIKE YOUR DYING
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Sat, 02-11-2006 - 10:33pm
I didn't date for years because I didn't want to have any distractions from my "plans".
But then I met a guy that changed all that.
The moment I met him I thought "wow I could marry this guy".
We dated on and off for 2 years... We both felt we were not ready for a commitment.
But over a year ago, when I returned from a trip to europe, we started a relationship.
It was a relationship like I had never had.
We talked about living together after 4 months, and well everything was magic.
I have to add that I have had many family health problems.
From my mothers cancer to my dads serious heart disease to my brother being in a comma, I had a lot going on not to mention completing my BA.
Anyway my dads health has been declining lately, my parents are losing their house - because of hospital bills-
and well I have been in hell.
My boyfriend didn't get that I was under stress and the other night I drank too much and the next morning I awoke and was told that it is over.
Just another knife in my heart. Now I am so depressed I can't find the strength to go see my dad in the hospital.
I know that no one is more important that your "daddy" - but I can't function.
So thats my rant and why losing the only guy I have ever loved is like dying.
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Registered: 02-11-2006
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 5:54pm
Not much has changed... here.. Except he called and, well I had been out with my girlfriends trying to cheer me up. So when we talked I sounded like I was as happy as can be. Which you would think is a good thing... But we are supposedly just on a "break" and I never told him how I actually feel. I even said I plan to move away.. Yeah I have no idea what I was thinking. Now he won't call me back. I called him once yesterday because I needed to talk to my best friend. My great uncle died, just another thing to deal with... As a child I was very close with him so it was hard...
Anybody got any ideas or know a guy that changed his mind?
Yeah I think I'm in the denial stage.
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Registered: 10-05-2004
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 7:37pm
Do you know what you did while you were drunk? Sounds like that comes into play with his decision to end it.
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Registered: 02-22-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 10:40pm
I was going to ask the same question but you beat me to it.
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Registered: 02-22-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 10:54pm

Hi Joy,

I feel for you because of all the adversity you have been through lately. I don't know if you believe in God or not but He always has a purpose in it for your good though granted it may not feel like it at the time. We all will experience adversity in one form or another throughout the course of our lifetimes. As for this guy you are in love with I would think that he ought to be more sensitive to your feelings and more supportive if he cares anything at all about you. If he doesn't care then launch him because he will only add to your grief. Getting drunk when you are feeling low will do nothing but increase your sorrow and your problems will still be there after you sober up. Drunkeness is never the answer and will only create more problems for you. If it becomes a daily habit it will surely kill you before your time. I hope things get brighter for you in the days to come. Blessings to you, Joy.