breaking up from this guys point of view

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Registered: 01-13-2007
breaking up from this guys point of view
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:29pm

yes im a guy, you probably all hate guys right now and i hope you all can get over whatever situation your in peacefully. heres my problem....

i just got out of a 6 year relationship about a month ago. i was meaning to stay single for a while and retire my penis but my boss at work was hot and she though i was too so we started a-rappin and dis is how it happened....she was my boss at Rite-Aid where i used to work, i have another job at Dominos and i was working that when she calls and leaves her number with the guy that answered the phone, i was in the bathroom when she called and i was given the number when i came out. i called her when i went on a delivery and when she answers,right away she tells me that shes bored.she asks me if i want to come over and of course im not gonna say no. so i got off at about 1am and got to her place at about 2am.....the rest is history. weve been seeing each other for about a month now and in that month ive also been talking to my ex almost on a regular basis.

i miss my ex a lot, i dont want to get back with her because i want to be alone but i want to talk to her comfortably without thinking that im doing something wrong and having that guilt in my head the whole time. i want to break up with this new girl but im not the kind of guy to hurt someones feelings and i dont want to stay in a relationship that doesnt make me happy or stay in it and feel guilt because im just leading her on and making her think that its all good. i know its better in the long run and im sure that she will appreciate not getting her heart broken in that manner. i want to break up with her because i just dont feel that we are right for each other, we dont fight or anything like that, its completely the opposite, we dont talk at all, im gonna go see her in about an hour and i am scared of how she is going to react, i dont want her to start crying cuz then ill just feel like crap, i know im gonna feel like crap anyways but i know that its better if i do this now before we get any further involved with each other. god this sucks.

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:44am

I think you have just proven to a lot of women on this board that most guys can't be alone rather they got dumped and did the dumping. Most of us knew this anyone but you gave it to us in black and white.

My advice is to keep your penis in your pants for a few months and get yourself emotionally stable before doing contact with either your ex or any other woman.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 1:02pm

I realize you don't want to hurt anyone, but it's really best if you just tell the new girl that you don't want to continue seeing her.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 5:01pm

::i want to break up with this new girl but im not the kind of guy to hurt someones feelings

You think words during a break-up are the only way to hurt someone's feelings? Leading someone on hurts. Letting them think there is more going on than there is, hurts. It's like lying by omission.

My personal opinion, deal with it. Go through the pain, the feeling like crap, cope with life and your decisions. We all have to go through stuff. Grief, pain, hurt, love, joy, sorrow, everything.




Edited 1/14/2007 5:14 pm ET by itwinflame


Carrie