breaking up is hard to do

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Registered: 02-27-2008
breaking up is hard to do
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 3:47pm

I found out my boyfriend of 3 years is married. he is in nc and when I called him, his wife the cell phone that I pay for. I'm not doing so well plus all his things are still at my house. please give me some advice. he is making no attempts to see me nor to pay me any money, he just says he so sorry he messed up and he was trying to spare my feelings. Can someone please give me some advice?

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 4:52pm

Hi Hurtsob,


You are so better off without him.

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 3:18pm

yes he does owe me alot of money, he has alot of stereo equipment at my house i mean alot, should i sell it? It has been about 7 months since i've seen him and you figure a storage unit company would have already sold it for non payment. Plus i guess i should turn off the cell phone that he is using and i am paying for, since he hasn't paid me any for that either. I'm so hurt and devasted, i feel like such a fool especially in front of my friends, family, and coworkers. i reaaly thought he was the one and i invested so much. Everyday is hard, is there thing that i can do because i'm very depressed, i work in customer service at an airport so i be happy, and i'm working 3 jobs just to make ends meet while he just rides off in the sunset. Justice needs to be served. Help

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 3:42pm

OMG, YES, turn off the cell phone!!!

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 4:12pm
He got married in 2003 and we got together in 2004, his wife is from london so i dont know if it was a marriage of convenience or love. I dont know where he lives so i cannot send anything. this is devasting especially not knowing his whereabouts, what do i do now. i do not know how to deal with this situation, its been 3 weeks since finding this out and i still feel like it was yesterday. Help
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 4:41pm

Yes, well, after a 3 year relationship, and to have it end in such a shocking fashion, it's going to take a while to get over it.

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:39pm

At least you're not stuck feeling like "he was a great guy but he just didn't want me." You now know that he's an a##hole. And surely you wouldn't want THAT for a boyfriend.

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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 6:04pm
well i cut the cell phone off which i was paying for, by the way he ran last months bill up to 250$. i've been very upset this weekend i think between the being lonely and thinking of this whole ordeal i'm going crazy. it's so easy for men to just pick up and go on, while im stuck with all the heartache, i just cant stop crying and thinking how could someone do this to me.
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 7:48pm
Sorry he ran up the phone bill.
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 7:52pm
i just got a phone call from he is using a friend's cell phone (so he says). He asked when do i have some time off because he wants to come visit. In another words he wants to get his things, he owes me alot of money, do u think i would be wrong to sell a few items to pay this large cell phone he ran up? Help, we started to argue and he doesn't think i should be feeling the way i am. He says he messed up and everybody messes up but lying about being married while with someone is more than a mess up to me. he is living in a fantasy world. pleez send advice.
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 8:25pm

::In another words he wants to get his things, he owes me alot of money, do u think i would be wrong to sell a few items to pay this large cell phone he ran up?


So when he contacted regarding the visit did you two talk about the money and the stuff he left?

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