Breaking up with a wonderful man
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| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 11:00am |
I have been seeing a wonderful man for 6 years. its a long distance relationship. we are 860 miles apart.He has been good and kind to me the whole time. His family treats me as if I am one of them. It was working great until I bumped into a guy I went to grammar school and havent seen him in 30 years. We started seeing eachother and its serious. I'm not being fair to my other man. He wants to marry and I do not. We are both divorced. I dont want him to know I'm leaving him for another man. It would devastate him. We talk on the phone every night and he tells me how much he misses me and loves me.This makes it even more difficult for me to end it. In the meantime, my new relationship told me from the beginig he knew what he was getting into and to take my time ending it. This was 4 months ago. Now he is wondering how much more time I need. I am due to fly to see him in May, which was preplanned months ago. But my new guy thinks I shouldnt go. It is beginning to bother him that I am still in contact with the other one.
Any advice out there on how to end a relationship with a wonderful man? I know it has to be done, there is no future for us.

I know it's hard but you need to just DO it. Imagine being in his shoes...wouldn't you be *devastated* that someone you loved was dating someone else for 4 months and didn't TELL you? I sure would be...more devastated by THAT than the fact that he was ending it with me.
And going to see him would be even worse. Just end it...let him go so he can find someone who loves him the way he loves you. You don't need to tell him about the other man, but you do need to end it cleanly and clearly...no ambiguity that gives him false hope.
Sheri
Good luck with your decision....remember you live only once and you deserve nothing but the best!