Is this a Breakup?

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Is this a Breakup?
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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 5:47pm
My bf and I have been together for about 7 months. Anyway, on Sat. he didn't feel well and left to go home. I called his house to make sure he got home ok and left him a message, basically, you should be home by now, please call me. He called me back. Sunday I called him to see how he was. He said he still wasn't feeling well and had a bad night. He then told me he didn't liked my krappy phone messages and that I knew he wasn't feeling well. Then he told me he didn't like my attitude and that he wanted a break and would call me whenever. It was obvious that he was in a bad mood. I haven't heard from him since. I don't know if this was his chicken way out of the relationship or if he really wants a break. By the way, what is a break? Thanks.
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Registered: 01-31-2006
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 6:17pm

hi worriedwoman

i'm sorry to tell you maybe he felt that your not acting nice to him or being too rude. beside you know his sick and you supposed to be the other way around...you know what i mean right? "BEING SWEET"

about the break maybe he need a time off and space coz he didnt like the way you are to him. doesnt mean he wants to totally break up with you. BUT IF, WITH THAT TIME OFF/SPACE I HOPE THAT HE WONT FEEL/THINK THAT YOUR NOT THAT RIGHT PERSON FOR HIM AT ALL COZ IF HE DID HE WILL TOTALLY NOT CALL YOU ANYMORE OR EITHER IGNORE YOUR CALLS.

AS FRIENDLY ADVISED NEXT TIME YOU HAVE TO THINK BEFORE YOU SAY IT..AND MAKE SURE YOU DONT SAY SOMETHING THAT MIGHT HURT HIS FEELING!

GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 11-09-2005
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 7:53pm
I emailed him this morning and apologized and told him the only reason I called Sat. night was because I was concerned about him driving home and I called Sun to see how he was. I told him it was not my intent to have left a krappy message and that I was sorry to have upset him and that I hoped he was feeling better. I haven't heard from him and I think at this point it's probably best if I just leave him alone.
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Registered: 01-31-2006
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 8:10pm

YAP YOUR ABSOLUTELY RIGHT ON THAT ONE....COZ YOU DONT WANNA SCARED HIM AWAY RIGHT? ATLEAST YOU APOLOGIZED AND I HOPE HE WILL CONSIDERED THAT.

FOR RIGHT NOW JUST RESPECT HIS DESICION IF HE THINK HE NEEDS TIME OFF...GIVE IT TO HIM...I BET YOU SOONER LATER HE WILL CALL YOU BACK. AS LONG THAT YOU DONT BATHER HIM RIGHT NOW YOU'LL BE OKAY.

GOOD LUCK




Edited 4/3/2006 8:11 pm ET by jazz_meeh
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Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 8:52pm

Honestly, without knowing your bf or the details of your relationship, I can't say for sure what is going on. However, it seems as though he has something going on in his mind, because no one should react that way to their girlfriend calling to check on them. Maybe he was just in a bad mood. But it also possible that he has been thinking about things for a long time and just didn't know how or when to say anything. Guys (actually, girls too) can be like that. I know with my ex, I had not been feeling that great about our relationship for awhile and then we ended things on a random Saturday night with really no warning at all. It started out as a normal phone conversation, but then, I don't know, I just felt it was time.

So, I guess I don't have any brilliant insight really. I wish I did. I think all you can do is talk to him and see what it is he really means, so then at least you'll know. It has been my experience that a "break" is really just a delayed break up, but there's a first time for everything.

Hang in there, you'll figure it out.

-Nikki
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