breakup - good or bad?
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| Mon, 06-20-2005 - 5:11pm |
Hi Everyone,
I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months about 4 weeks ago. We didn't have any huge problems in our relationship, and I feel like I loved/still love him, but I just felt like I wasn't totally "in love" with him. I knew there were some things that I wasn't so thrilled about with him - sometimes I felt like he was kind of distant, kind of unresponsive when I would talk about some stuff, but all in all, he was a great guy. We always were comfortable discussing our problems, etc, and have never really had any big fights.
The other main problem why we broke up was that my family seemed to have issues with him... there was never any big confrontation or anything, but they never really accepted him wholeheartedly, and it has been made clear that they aren't too supportive of our relationship.
I guess now, I just miss him so much. I keep thinking about all the good times that we had together, and missing that time with him, knowing that we won't be together in the same way anymore. I've never had a real breakup before.... is this usual, or should I be reconsidering us breaking up? Any advice/encouragement would be appreciated.
Thanks.

Ya, I mean, sometimes I feel like they are valid reasons, but then other times I think maybe I was giving up something really good, and that maybe we could have worked things out...
It seems like it is just so hard to get a clear answer from your head/heart...
Any other thoughts?
Do you know why your family did not accept him? I know that after I have broken up with people that is when everyone was honest with me and pointed out reasons why I should not be with him. I used to think maybe at first they were just telling me these things to make me feel better about breaking up, but when I sat down and thought about it they were right. I can look back even now and say they were right.
A relationship is hard work but when someone is not happy and they are having doubts that is when you know that it is even more difficult.