breakup sex? a mistake?

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Registered: 05-21-2007
breakup sex? a mistake?
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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:34am
I've written on here a lot in the past month explaining my situation with my ex and this new guy i've recently been seeing. well tonight i visited my ex because he broke his foot and we talked a lot and decided were in love and we should be together but not right now. so were gunna try NC until I'm home from school in May -- but the thing isssss we had sex tonight, and i dont know if thats going to make it harder for me...i think i made a mistake but i dont regret it right now -- but i have a feeling i will later on. dont know what to do. i think i should not talk to my ex for a while and cool things off with the new guy at least until i can get my head straight...any suggestions? please and thank you
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 2:40am

Dee - its only a mistake if you feel guilty or regretful or hurt by it.

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Registered: 05-21-2007
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 3:05am
thats exactly my situation, not now but later on -- and the only reason its like that is because im in college and hes at home...so when is later? this summer or in 3 years? its so tough -- i dont think the sex hurt us now but i think i might regret doing it when i go back to school and dont see him for another 2 months
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 9:27am
hey - be careful with that statement... you aren't in a committed relationship. nothing prevents your ex from sleeping around. you are leaving yourself to get hurt when/if you find out hes seeing someone else.
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Registered: 05-21-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:49am

I know but its like...if i love him i shuold wanna be with him right? but i dont want to be with him because he was very very controlling in our relationship, and he didnt trust me. but he loves me so much and tells me hes so in love with me and im afraid to totally let go because i dont want to lose that. i dont want to one day wake up and realize that we shuold be together only for him to have found someone else and not be in love with me anymore...i know its a risk and i know i should take it because i cant keep doing my 4 years in college in such a closed minded controlling untrusting relationship...it was getting very unhealthy -- but hes practically BEGGING for us to be togehter again, and i do really really love him

what the hell do i doo???

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:12pm

Welcome to the board dee288,


May I ask....where did you learn that love looks like this?