Broke up 1 hr ago- not doing well
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Broke up 1 hr ago- not doing well
| Fri, 05-11-2007 - 1:06am |
Ok, I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs 1 hr ago and am not doing well at all. In fact, he is sleeping like a baby in the other room (we live together, by the way), and I am on the couch drinking vodka, crying, and trying to decide what to do with my life. Help! I need some support!

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So, tonight I am going to go out with my girlfriends. I have a good friend who is in a very different, but even more stressfull situation, so we are going to go let loose together and try to forget about our worries for the time being. I don't know what is going to happen when I get home tonight. If he is here I am just going to cry and wish that I could go jump in bed with him. If he is gone I am going to cry and wonder where he could be and who he could be with. I think that the best thing right now though is just not to talk to him, not to see him. I need to concentrate on supporting myself and finding the strong, resilient woman that I know I am. I am not going to lie, I am hoping deep down that when he sees how cool and collected I can be about this whole situation he is going to wonder what he was thinking by breaking up with me.
The worst part is that nothing big happened. No catastrophic event, no reason. He just got really distant for a couple of days. When I was persistent about asking what was wrong he finally just told me that he doesn't love me anymore.
To all of you ladies who are going through the same thing- we need to be strong together. Even though it might feel like our lives, our friends, our families and our loves has been taken away from us we are still US! No one can change who you are. No one can make you not exist. No one can stop you from participating in your own life. We do that to ourselves, and thus we make ourselves miserable. So, everybody go find a friend, grab a margherita, and flirt with the waiter!
Hi! Just wanted to say - hang in there.
I went through the same thing you did a year ago. Exactly a year ago. Right now, last year, I was absolutely devistated, because my ex wasn't so nice to me about two weeks leading up to our breakup (which will officially be a year ago in 5 days) so I had a terrible knot in my stomach for a good two weeks.
I always wondered if in some time I'd be able to come on this board and offer up some advice, and I'm happy to say I can now, even though it's a bittersweet feeling, because I know the pain you are going through. I just want you to know you aren't alone, and YES things do get much, much better. You will have days when you feel great, and you will have days when you feel terrible. Your emotions will change from time to time during the day as well. I found that when I was going through my breakup, if I was around other people, I did fine, but as soon as I got home alone, I started to get upset again.
The other thing that helped me was posting on this board.
Keep your head up girl!
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