broke up after 3 years. what to do??
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| Sat, 12-31-2005 - 3:36am |
I have been in a relationship for 3 years now.. and she finally broke it off with me. The reason for doing this, is because she says i work too much, and that i do not spend enough time with her. I have been told about spending time with her several times.. and i was never taking it too seriously. She told me before that if it continues, she will break off the relationship. This has happened with her other ex as well, but with a drinking problem. I dont know what to do. I really want her to be back in my life again, and i do not know how i can convince her that i can change. I do not think this is a personality issue or anything. But she is the type that needs alot of attention. She now resents me, we still hang out. but as friends. She says she wants to move on, but i really dont want to. ANy help or comments would be greatly appreciated. Shes been telling me, that we've had this problem for over 1.5 years now.. and during that time, she has had up and down days, as in depression. And she said by ending this relationship, the problem (which is me) will be gone.. is there anyway to get her back? any suggestions?
I have been told not to call her, should i do this?
I call her everyday to see how she is doing.. is this the right thing to do? i still see her to go eat and stuff..
any suggestions..

Ok so she split with you bc you work too much? Hmm..was there any dialogue previously? Do you think there is more to it?? I dunno, for me if my man was working too much I feel we could find some resolution. As far as being a personality thing, ya, it is..you work a lot or that is her perception. I wonder if she needs more time? Do you have quality time together??
If you want to try and resolve this, set up a meeting to sit and hash it out..if she does not want to meet, close the door and move on. Give it another go and see what her needs are and what compromise can be reached. I admire her for having boundaries leaving an alcoholic situation. And now, for some reason, this relationship is not meeting her needs so if you find that to be true once you meet, respect her needs and move on..do not bother her anymore..