Broke up with him......see him everyday!

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Registered: 01-03-2006
Broke up with him......see him everyday!
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Tue, 04-18-2006 - 3:53pm

A few months ago, i started working in a computer business, where i met this "wonderful" guy who, first, was a jobmate, then a friend and then a boyfriend. We had a wonderful relationship and god knows i still care about him. We broke up cause he wasn't ready for a full time commitment and we tried (just because he begged me to) to remain friends, even though i was hurtin' so bad. Short story: I switched positions with a friend so i could work in other division, but a coplue of weeks ago.....he showed up here because he's working with me now!!!

I'm so messed up, because i promised myself not to fall apart and have a nice and easy work relationship with him....but the other day, in an office party, he offered me to join him for a coffee and after talking about the good ol' times and ended up spending the night together. He said he still cared about me, that sometimes he tried to ignore me to do his job, but he couldn't and that he was jealous of my other jobmates. I tried not to believe him, but i still love him. And that night was wonderful.....After that, we kept the work relationship as usual, but we kissed when no one was around and all that, but sometimes he gets so cold...(we hadn't had sex after that night)

The point is: Should i suggest him to get back to what we had in the past? Should i just let it go? Sometimes i look back an regret what happened that night....i'm confused, sad and mad at me, for being so weak........

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 4:20pm

:: and after talking about the good ol' times and ended up spending the night together.

that's a big problem when sharing emotionally with an ex especially when one of you feels more than the other...

You will have to be the strong one and decide and then do what is right for you.


Carrie