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broke up with me over aim.
| Tue, 07-25-2006 - 10:52am |
So my boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me last night over AIM. I have no idea where it came from either. When I asked him how long he'd been thinking about this decision he said 3 weeks! I'd had no idea. He claims that we fought to much, but we both are stubborn and have disagreements. I'm so hurt and confused. I see him today to give him back his things. His promise ring, will be the hardest to give back. I need some help. I feel like I'm drowning here. I'm not the kinda person to ask for advise or help because I'm to stubborn for it. =\
Help? I love him with all my heart and honestly, if he asks me to get back together with him I would. Stupid right? That's what alot of my friends have called me. I can't it. I've known him for 6 years. I wish I could just curl in a ball and cry forever. I'm so angry. I mean...over AIM?
Help? I love him with all my heart and honestly, if he asks me to get back together with him I would. Stupid right? That's what alot of my friends have called me. I can't it. I've known him for 6 years. I wish I could just curl in a ball and cry forever. I'm so angry. I mean...over AIM?

scgrl05...
Do you honestly think ALL THAT CRYING will get you anywhere?
PG knows (all too well) that every relationship ISN'T going to have a "happy ending?" And despite the fact that you've invested nearly a year of your life in this man...it's better to know NOW that a future for the 2 of you would be IMPOSSIBLE! Can you imagine if you were confronted by a sudden rejection during your first 2 or 3 years of marriage?
This would make you feel even worse than you're feeling right now.
TRUST ME ON THIS!
There ARE better men out there. So please stop crying and instead...concentrate on finding "your TRUE Mr. Right"....because....he's looking for you too!
Pianoguy
I'm sorry...that was a really classless thing for him to do. To put it mildly.
I have been broken up with over a text message so I know how you feel! Just wait it out and see what happens. Maybe he is going through something and made a brash decision that he is going to regret. IF he comes back to you, it is your responsibility to figure out if his excuse is worthy.
But there is a good chance that he made the right decision and he is just an idiot. If that's the case, count your blessings that it ended now rather than later. You WILL find an amazing guy for you, even though it's hard to believe right now.
Either way, DO NOT contact him. That is the best thing you can do for yourself, I think everyone on this board will agree. Give yourself time. A month, a few months, whatever it takes. It will be very very painful but once it starts feeling better, you will be able to think so much more clearly and chances are, you're going to be glad he is out of your life. Just give it time. It will be hard, but we are all here for you, so vent all you want.
I will never get it.
I sympathize with you...breaking up is never easy...you will feel sad, angry and frustrated and a whole lot of other emotions. Things will be rough for a while but very gradually you'll see the light at the end of that proverbial tunnel. In the meantime, let yourself grieve - cry, scream, yell, - get it out of your system and then try to calm down and do something constructive - something just for you. Right now is the time to be very good to yourself, dear. You deserve it now more than any other time. Pamper yourself. You will live through this ---SO many of us have. I'm currently in 'limbo' -haven't heard from my guy in five weeks now and I'm very sad, just hoping that this isn't the end for us. We had such an amazing start and fell in love so deeply and then the stress with his work hit (he's career military here in Canada) and I reacted in all the wrong ways.
I have one question - what does AIM stand for? I've never heard of that before....
Take care - you're in my prayers tonight.
Mary-Anne
Of course you're angry...and you should be. Anger is a healthy emotion and I agree with one of the other gals who told you that for the next while you should stay angry with him. It will provide you with strength to get through the most painful days and stop you from contacting him in any way.
I know your pain - I've felt it, too, at least a couple of times in my lifetime. I believe I'm much older than you - I'm 55 and I'm guessing that you're in your twenties. But pain is pain no matter what the age of the person. My husband of 20 years walked out on me for a woman 10 years my junior and that was his 6th affair in the last 13 years. Yes, I know what pain is all about. He's an alcoholic - a functioning one but verbally and emotionally abusive. I'm currently in a new relationship and we're having problems. No alcohol, thank goodness, but Brian has work stress related (he's career military here in Canada) and emotional baggage related problems that have caused him to pull out of our long term relationship. Yes, pain is pain and it's an awful, awful feeling.
For a while now you'll want to just curl into the fetal position and stay like that...both physically when you lie down and mentally during the day. This is a good and protective position - you're mind is trying to provide protection for your emotional wellbeing. Let yourself feel the pain and cry it out. You have to go through the pain and feel it - as horrible as it is - before you can emerge from this and be whole again. Gradually, very gradually, you'll start to uncurl, little by little, and then you'll start to stretch out your limbs and reach upwards, until one day you'll spread your wings and then you'll fly - freely - heart whole once again. In the meantime, little one, remember that you're not alone. There are alot of us who hear you, listen to you, reach out to you, and who will support you while you're going through this valley. God will give you the grace to come through this trial. I will pray that Angels will surround you tonight and wrap their wings around you and cocoon you with their protection. May tomorrow be just a wee bit better than today. May the sun warm your sweet face. May you smile a little and maybe laugh. One day your heart will sing again. In the meantime, be very good to yourself, indulge in little treats and vent all you want. Write anytime - I'm listening and so are others.
Mary-Anne