Broke the NC...

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Broke the NC...
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Thu, 07-12-2007 - 1:18am

I feel like a fool. Ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago and I've been doing really good on the NC. That was until last week. I was cleaning and I came across a birthday present for him that I had forgotten about. It's one of those things that I couldn't return or take back, so I broke down and called him. He didn't answer, didn't call me back. So I waited a week and called him again yesterday. This time he answered (amazing what blocking your number will do) and I told him that I found something I had forgotten to give to him. He wanted to play 20 questions about what it was and then ended up hanging up on me. I didn't call him back yesterday, but I was pretty ticked off, so I called him again today. Oh, and according to him, he didn't hang up on me, his cell "dropped" the call.

Anyways, he's supposed to call me tomorrow to let me know where I can meet him to give him his stuff. He acted really cold toward me, which irritates me because he acts like he's the one who got hurt. I was the one who ended it, but he's the one who told me he'll "never care about me or love me that way that I want him to. And it's just not with me, it's with anyone." Oh and I also got the line "I don't want a relationship with you because I already know it won't go anywhere. And it's not that I don't like you, I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone." Grr...

So, I'm freaking about seeing him tomorrow. There is something about this guy, when I see him, I melt. And although he was pretty blunt on how he felt, I'm in love with him and I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself and try to get him back. Sorry...just needing a little pep talk. I know he's a jerk and I can do better. The problem is I only want him...

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: jesskes
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:25am

"f you don't want to be with a married man, then don't go see him just to give him a "gift". He's married... You should respect that and leave him alone."

Well, it's easier said than done. Thanks for the feedback though :)

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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: jesskes
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 11:43am
Ok, so I met him yesterday at a gas station near my work. After I gave him his gift, he sat down on the curb in front of my car and wanted me to sit next to him. I leaned against the hood of my car instead. He kept asking "how have you been?", "What have you been doing?", "Are you doing ok?" I played it cool and told him I was doing just fine. We talked for a few minutes about random stuff and then I stood so that I could go inside the gas station. I think he assumed I was leaving, so he stood up and gave me a big hug and said thank you for thinking about him. Then he follows me around while I go in the gas station to buy a drink. Gave me another hug as I was going to leave. Waved at me like 3 times as I went to pull out of the parking lot. It was so strange. But yesterday is exactly what I needed. Yeah, I love him and I wish things would've turned out different. But I really feel like I'm ready to move on from him now. I know it may not make sense, but that's how I feel today. So thanks to everyone who gave advice...I appreciate it!!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: jesskes
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:04pm
I bet you are glad that is over and I'm glad you are feeling better.
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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: jesskes
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:17pm
Thanks!

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