broke up w/ me on our one year anniv

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Registered: 03-26-2006
broke up w/ me on our one year anniv
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Sun, 03-26-2006 - 11:23pm
Someone please help me. My boyfriend of one year, broke up with me so unexpectdly. We had talked about marriage and were very serious with eachother. Then he ended up going away for spring break and kissed a girl while he was drunk. Then he came back and confsessed to me and doesnt know why he did this to me. He is questioning the love he has for me bc he is not the type of guy to do this. But yet he tells me he still loves me but doesnt know why he would cheat on me. I forgave him but he said he needs time to think and be single. We never had any problems! If it was one problem is we got to serious too fast, and spent time with eachother alot! I dont kno what to do, i still love him. He still calls me and wants to see me, but we are broken up and he is the one who wanted space. How am i supposed to give him space if he cant give me any? I told him to quit talking to me but he said he cant because he needs me in his life? What do i do? I have seen him twice since and everytime we see eachother we kiss but yet he doesnt know what he wants bc he is confused. This is so out of character of my boyfriend and I just keep thinking its a phase he is going through. Also this is consuming my life, my every thought bc i feel like its a bad dream. Everyone tells me he will get back with me and he even said chances are we will, but how do i move on and not just wait around for him? incase he doesnt come back? please help :(
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Registered: 01-31-2006
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 11:51am

hi confused

just tell your exbf to stop calling you he cannot be unfair to you. how could he tell you that he needed you to his life and he cant commit coz his confused his crazy.

to be honest to you it seems that he want to hold you so he could do whatever he want now. you never know he might end up having sex with the other girl AND AFTER HE GET TIRED OF HAVING SEX WITH HER. HE WILL BE BACK TO YOU COZ HE KNOWS YOUR WEAK PART.

BUT DONT LET HIM DO THAT TO YOU...HE WANT TO HURT YOU AND BUT YOU CANNOT HURT HIM. SO HIS PUTTING YOU ON HOLD.

TRUST ME IF HE DID CHEAT TO YOU ONCE AND YOU GAVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE WITHOUT MAKING HIM REGRET...HE MIGHT DO IT AGAIN...

SO THIS IS ALL UP TO YOU. I MEAN I KNOW YOU LOVE THE GUY. I'M NOT SAYING DONT GO BACK WITH HIM...JUST RIGHT NOW TEACH HIM LESSON SO HE WONT DO IT AGAIN.

GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 04-01-2006
Sat, 04-01-2006 - 9:30pm

I can totally sympathize with you. My boyfriend broke up with my on our four year anniversary (about a month ago). Although he didn't cheat on me, it was completely unexpected. We are also constantly communicating...but in my case both of us want to remain friends.

However, just recently (as in today) I realized that as much as I'll miss him and have a hard time going through the day without having his support, the time a part may allow him to gain a clearer perspective on things. As well, not talking to him will force me to gain my independence again and prove to myself that whether or not we get back together I can survive.

I don't know if this helps you. But good luck!