Broke up when still In Love
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Broke up when still In Love
| Wed, 04-20-2005 - 7:50pm |
My ex boyfriend broke up with me, still loving me and wanting to be with me. He told me that he was getting way too attached to me and that he was falling so much for me and that he had to break up with me because if we would still be together and let time pass he wouldn't be able to let me go later on when he falls in love with me even more. I told him to not thing negative and not think that im gonna break up with him. Then he told me that i am going to start college and im gonna be surrounded by so many guyz and that he knows anything could happen. Crying he told me that this was very hard for him but that he had to let me go and that it was for the best of us. I told him that i didnt understand him! Why was he ending such a nice relationship????????? Then he just told me not to make things harder for him. He wanted to be friends with me because he didnt want to "lose" me but i said no. I think is was so STUPID for him breaking up with me because of that! He totally broke my heart but then again I think that if i would still be with him and let time pass and then later on when we are MORE in love we break up then i wouldn't be able to handle that. I guess he was kinda rite in that but still he broke my heart. Today has been exactly a week since we broke up and we havent called each other at all and at school I see him but I just Ignore him. You think ill get through this fast?? How should I act around him? Im so confused.

I'm sorry, but I don't believe his reasons. If you love someone and are that attached, the LAST thing you want to do is lose them. Now maybe he thinks you will dump him when you get to college and he's scared but he would work on making you guys stronger so as not to lose you. He's not willing to make it work and see, then you gotta let him go. He's being immature and leading you on. I too would be so frustrated as well with him and his reasons. You can't make him try, and that sucks. Good luck moving on, and try digging alittle deeper to see if there is another reason for his weird behavior. You sure nobody is on a back burner that he can move on too?? I hope i'm wrong, but good luck to you. hugs
ps... if he is THAT scared or THAT insecure about losing you, then he has serious issues that he needs to work on, that you cant help him with. You both are growing and changing right now (college age) thats bound to happen, he is either giving lines (loves you but not in love) or he needs help growing up and living life not hiding from bad things that could happen. JMHO
If ignoring him makes the pain bearable keep at it. It might hurt more poking and prodding him for answers.
Just remember that you are a strong woman. You can get through this. I have faith that you can.
Edited 4/21/2005 6:04 pm ET ET by swtgurl2005