Broken up and all alone

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Broken up and all alone
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 12:06pm
well it finally happened. the past month has been so hard with my boyfriend, and as a result several days ago we broke up(mutual agreement). the hard part is dealing with being alone. for the last year and a half i have always gone to him for comfort and someone to spend alot of time with. while we were dating i let go of all the friendships i had with other guys because those friendships werent meant to be and i didnt want to deal with more than one man when i had a perfect boyfriend. my best friend moved to sweden and i havent seen her in almost a year. we email each other but thats it. so i have absolutely no one to hang out with, except my parents. however we dont get along and its hard to talk to them about anytihng. so im wondering if you gals have any ideas on how to form new friendships with other females. growing up ive always had males as friends, and now at 22 i dont even know what to say to other women. help me, im all alone.

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Registered: 10-31-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 1:33pm
I am exactly in the same boat, been with a guy for a year, made him

my world and now that its over, there is nothing. I think its a time

when we are not only lonely but also vulnerable. Well, I did start a new

job that keeps me busy, but in the back of my mind, this relaitonship

keeps playing on.

I did go on the internet to make a couple of friends. I am also planning

on taking a class on dancing. I dont know what town you live in,

explore the local scene. Ok, this sounds pathetic, i never played a

video game in my life, but I even got myself games to keep my focus away.

I am doing everything I can to not think about it.

Tomorrow, I am meeting this guy (who also just broke up) to hangout

with. We promised to be just friends as I am not ready to be with anyone.

But Keeping my schedule busy does help . . does not help enough.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 10:09pm
(((Hugs))) Welcome back, sweetie. I know you're h urting....but I can't say I'm really all that suprised with this recent turn of events. It was bound to be difficult with him leaving under the circumstances he did. But I feel for you and we're all here for you. You have more friends here then you realize!!! Good luck and I wish you the best and feel free to post whenever you want or need to!!









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Registered: 09-13-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 1:20pm
thank you heidi, it is very obvious that the relationship had to end because of all the events that have taken place. we both realized that and decided it truely is best to breakup for the time being. if ite meant to be it will happen right. coming to these boards has helped me tremendously. i enjoy getting and also giving advice to others. too bad we all live all over the us. wouldnt it be nice to have ivillage parties every now and then! to the other poster i feel your pain. if you ever need to talk just email me at kristy@cinderellapageant.com i promise ill reply and talk with you. i am currently located in north carolina but would love to live in florida one day, i love it there! you said that you're taking up a dancing class, what kind? ive been taking dance for 10 years now and am in love with it, i thought about taking it up again to get back in shape and make some new friends. however my money situation can only afford free activities, hehe. well thank you again for replying and stay in touch, we'll get through this together. how does that sound?

sincerely,

km2004:)

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Registered: 10-16-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 7:28pm
I know exactly how you feel and it can be such a scary feeling. You must FORCE yourself to do things.... read, workout, journal anything to keep yourself occupied. Try to make new friends through school, work etc. I know its hard and as always (easier said than done) you will get through this. Everyone feels lonely at times.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:38pm
Your more than welcome...that's what we're here for after all!!!









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Registered: 09-13-2004
Thu, 11-04-2004 - 12:40pm
hey everyone,

well its been a week and things are getting better. im feeling alright and as long as i dont think about whats going on and focus on the positive then things arent so bad. its been raining horribly here the past few days so ive been inside alot and am going crazy. i want so badly to go to the park and just walk around, oh well, maybe tomorrow. thanks for all your support and trust me ill be back to post, but promise next time it will be something good! have a great day girls and chat with you soon.

sincerely,

km2004:)