Broken up and heartbroken
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| Wed, 11-02-2005 - 12:15pm |
HI my bf of four months and I just broke up on Monday night. I think both of us knew it was coming but he didn't have the balls to do it so he pushed me until I did. Last month he moved an hour and a half away and we were going to try the ld thing but this whole month he was acting wierd. I got over it and accepted it because he was having a rough time down there, his job wasn't going great and he didn't have any friends. But Monday I was online and something told me to check his yahoo personal ad, I knew he had one because that was how we got together. But he had updated it a week ago to his new town saying he wanted someone within 50 miles of his new town. I got pissed and we got into a fight that night and he was like where in the ad did it say I was looking for a girlfriend? I asked him where didn't it it was a PERSONAL AD and where did it say that he had been in an exclusive relationship for four months.
OHHH I am so pissed and hurt right now. It's taking everything I have not to call him but I know that that would look desperate and he wouldn't talk to me anyways. I just need to be told that my anger over this situation was justified and that I didn't over-react.
well thanks to anyone who has read this. any replies on advice would be welcomed whole heartedly.
Leah

Carrie
You are not over reacting. If he couldn't handle the long distance thing, he should have told you instead of posting a personal ad. In any event, long distance relationships are really difficult and don't usually work out unless the distance is temporary, and it doesn't sound like this is.
Try not to call him and let you see him upset as this only gives him more power. Plus, if you don't contact him you will start healing that much faster.
Hang in there, it will get better with time. Post here anytime you're feeling down!
-Nikki
co-cl of Breaking Up is Hard to Do!
Hi Leah,
I think you are absolutey justified in your anger. And I really commend you on NOT calling him. It seems that this is something that he wanted, and why be with someone who does not want to be with you?
Like you, I've also broken up w/my ex and am heartbroken. We were together for 6 years. Like you, I'm also trying to be strong and not call or contact him. It's been one month so far. From everything I've read, it sucks but time will heal the hurt. Just hang it there and know you're not alone.
Cristina
Thanks for all the support. I know that breaking up was the right thing to do. It sucks but all the same it was a necessary thing. It's been like three days and its getting really easy for me not to want to pick up the phone and scream at his voice-mail. I did write him an unsent e-mail and I read a couple of books that are helping me see that I just don't deserve that and there is someone out there that will treat me like I should.
Well thanks again and hang in there everybody, I know I'm trying to. Leah