Broken Engagement
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| Sun, 07-03-2005 - 9:40pm |
Hi everyone,
I just wanted to introduce myself and share a little bit of my situation before I start responding to everyone's posts.
Basically, I am utterly and completely heartbroken. I had been engaged for about 6 months, with a wedding planned for this fall, beautiful engagement ring, stunning wedding gown hanging in my closet,etc.
A week ago my fiance told me that he does not know what he wants out of his life and didn't want to get married anymore. I feel hurt, angry, inadequate, shocked, just plain horrible. I haven't even told everyone yet, so every day I put on a brave face, but I am crying inside.
I really want to heal from this and my strategy is to just take one day at a time, cry if I feel like it, try to find things that make me happy, and avoid talking about this in real life.
If anyone has gone through anything similar, I would love to hear your story.

mariposa4412...
Pianoguy realizes that the following isn't probably what you wish to hear....BUT....
Your fiance did you a "MAJOR FAVOR" by backing out before either of you committed yourselves to a life together!
Many ivillagers have indicated that the first 3-5 years of a marriage are often very difficult. There are more adjustments required than you could possibly imagine. Some halves of a couple aren't always READY to 'make those adjustments!'
I hate to say this...but it's often a lot worse when you wake up in the morning and suddenly discover that the person you chose as your LIFE PARTNER.....was a poor choice! And making the attempt to 'undo the damage' (after the vows have been spoken) can be considerably more complicated (depending upon your assets and lifestyle).
Your "one day at a time" strategy is a smart one. Actually...if you slowly break the news about your DISENGAGEMENT to a few friends...they'll probably take some of the 'emotional stress' off your shoulders!
Good Luck. I know you'll get past this.
Pianoguy