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broken heart, broken trust
| Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:17am |
Hi.
I am dealing with a new breakup that I didn't see coming at all. It came from someone I was seeing for only a couple of months but had spent tons of time with. He was unlike anyone I had ever dated and treated me with the utmost respect, attention and care. He was very inexperienced in relationships and not a ladykiller type so I felt so safe with him and confident my heart would be treated with care. In less than 24 hours he went from treating me as if he were the luckiest man alive to be with me, to cold and distant and asking himself why he was with me. This all happened following a totally ineffective discussion about religion and raising kids. From my perspective, he jumped to hasty conclusions and never allowed for thorough discussion- and all from a man who prided himself on being an effective communicator. He broke up with me and I was totally stunned. I'm just now starting to come out of the shock phase after almost two weeks. My friends and family have been very supportive and loving and I'm trying to stay relatively positive. I've been through a lot of breakups but this one really threw me for a loop and totally broke my heart. It's hard not to look back and wonder which red flags I didn't see or refused to see. After so many breakups, I am starting to wonder if there is really someone good out there for me. I'm a good person, smart and pretty and yet I feel rejection is almost invevitable, even with the most likely ones like my most recent. He was overweight and balding. I'm starting to accept that perhaps for him, it was nothing more than infatuation, while for me I was really falling for the person inside all of that. Staying positive is really hard and it's also hard to try to figure out why some people somehow manage to find the right one early on while the rest of us go through heartache after heartache. But I guess I can hear my mom right now: "life's not fair" It's true.
Breakups really suck.
I am dealing with a new breakup that I didn't see coming at all. It came from someone I was seeing for only a couple of months but had spent tons of time with. He was unlike anyone I had ever dated and treated me with the utmost respect, attention and care. He was very inexperienced in relationships and not a ladykiller type so I felt so safe with him and confident my heart would be treated with care. In less than 24 hours he went from treating me as if he were the luckiest man alive to be with me, to cold and distant and asking himself why he was with me. This all happened following a totally ineffective discussion about religion and raising kids. From my perspective, he jumped to hasty conclusions and never allowed for thorough discussion- and all from a man who prided himself on being an effective communicator. He broke up with me and I was totally stunned. I'm just now starting to come out of the shock phase after almost two weeks. My friends and family have been very supportive and loving and I'm trying to stay relatively positive. I've been through a lot of breakups but this one really threw me for a loop and totally broke my heart. It's hard not to look back and wonder which red flags I didn't see or refused to see. After so many breakups, I am starting to wonder if there is really someone good out there for me. I'm a good person, smart and pretty and yet I feel rejection is almost invevitable, even with the most likely ones like my most recent. He was overweight and balding. I'm starting to accept that perhaps for him, it was nothing more than infatuation, while for me I was really falling for the person inside all of that. Staying positive is really hard and it's also hard to try to figure out why some people somehow manage to find the right one early on while the rest of us go through heartache after heartache. But I guess I can hear my mom right now: "life's not fair" It's true.
Breakups really suck.

popeyesgal....
Sorry about your disappointment and loss.
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