Broken Hearted
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| Fri, 02-16-2007 - 5:20pm |
Hi everybody I am new here I know you guys don't get alot of guys on here venting but I am a guy who need some advise. Me and my girlfriend had been dating for a year we were really close and loved each other I thought. I really had feeling for her and hope that she did too. She was my first girlfriend that I had ever had I am 23 years old and she is 22 we met online and really hit is off we had a great relationship and I really thought that I would marry this girl it was one of those too good to be true kind of things. We were both virgins and lost our virginity together while we were together I had even proposed to her and ask her to marry me she said yes everything was going good until last thursday she just called me up at work and told me that she was breaking up with me she gave me no explanation I have tried calling her back but she wont answer. Then the other day she told me she was seeing somebody I was devistated I could not believe it how could she jump into a relationship that quickly when I am so upset and still devistatated I just get really down on the weekends because I had spent so much time with her on the weekend and knowing she is spending them with some other guy is terrible to me I actually cried my self to sleep the last couple of nights I am still just stunned I have no Idea what to do I feel like a huge piece of my life is missing without her. She lives just 15 minutes from where I live and everytime I go to work and pass by there I just cry and cant stop. Sorry to vent just needed to get it out. Hope this makes sense I am crying as we speak.
Thanks for listening

Hi ross232 and welcome to the board. Guys are welcomed. It's good to have a male point-of-view also.
Ross- I met my b/f on line 7 yrs ago and we just talked for 2 then I finally went to visit him 3 states away. 11 months after that I moved to be with him and left my entire family (parents, married sister with kids, friends etc). Right before New Years of this year he decided that he didn't want to be with my anymore. Yes this is 4 yrs after I moved here for him. Keep in mind that we live together (on lease only I should say b/c he doesn't really come here when I'm going to be around). Him not being here hurts but it also hurts when he is here b/c now we don't act the same as we did even 6 wks ago.
Yeah we argued but I just thought it was stuff that we'd get over, no big deal. I was wrong. I have my good days and my bad days and then I have days that just plain suck. I was doing pretty well until last weekend when I found out that he's been seeing this girl, I don't know how long he's been with her but she says she loves him and stuff like that. It broke my heart all over again. Then it was Valentines Day (D day for me) and now I'm back to the long lonely weekend. UGH. I came home today and called my sister and cried for no reason. She of course tells me that I should be over it by now and just need to move on (this coming from a woman who's been with the same guy since 1988 and has 4 kids now).
Ross you are not alone, we're here to talk to you whenever you want. We'll support you and we'll tell you honestly what we think. I do agree with those that tell you to have No Contact. I've not called "him". For awhile he was calling me but more just to check on me to "make sure I was okay"... this really translates to the fact that he felt guilty. We've had absolutely NC since Monday and I'm not gonna lie and tell you that I didn't watch my cell phone all day just hoping that he'd call and tell me he changed his mind.
Obviously he didn't but I still didn't call him.
People will tell you to keep yourself busy...we all know that this is harder than it sounds. Tonight I'm going to dinner with a girl friend and tomorrow I have no idea. Maybe I can get someone to go bowling or something. I'm making sunday's my day to go to Borders or something an just read a book with a hot chocolate. It really sucks b/c I'm lonely and sad but I know I'll get thru it...that's what I keep telling myself.
Keep your chin up.
Hey cl-itwinflame
She did seem a little distant but I did not think anything about it I thought we were ok. I guess what gets to me is that she has found somebody so fast after we broke up It just brings tears to my eyes to say that she has somebody else. I really appreciate the advise you gave me and everybody who has posted advice too. One thing that I have done is not contact her after she broke up with me because I know if I did that it would be too much for me. But just wanted to say thanks for the advice to everyone.
Hey Belly 2004
Wanted to tell you thanks for the advise I know is will really help me I am so glad I am not alone about this.
Thanks