brokenhearted

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Registered: 01-06-2003
brokenhearted
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Tue, 02-11-2014 - 5:20pm

Hi i am new here. My boyfriend and I were almost together 3 years. We broke up Friday and he is going back to his old state. I have 2 kids with Autism too so it is hard when they were attached. He is trying to keep his distance until he gets money to fly soon. I am just hurt no matter how i try. 

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 02-12-2014 - 12:31am

I'm sorry this is happening to you Nicki.  If he is determined to leave, then he will leave.  Are the children his children?  If not, is their father involved with them?  Right now, your first priority is with your children.  Men can come and go, but your children are always going to be #1 in your life.  Autistic children can learn or understand that someone has left their life, and you have to do your best to explain it in a way they can understand.....NICELY.  No matter why he is leaving, let them know that he feels bad to leave them, and he still loves them.  Make his departure as easy as you can on the children, and don't let them see you crying and moping around.  Life goes on......especially for them.  Make the effort to make them happy, and you'll find that you're happy too.  Good Luck.