brokeup and pregnant

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Registered: 12-30-2006
brokeup and pregnant
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Mon, 01-08-2007 - 11:36am
well me and my ex officially broke-up yesterday. It hurts im on an emotional rollercoaster. we have been on and off for the last few months since he got with this "popular" band and hes pretty much stopped coming around since. although he will come over from time to time to do laundy and have me cook him breakfast other then that our relationship has been void. next month we would have been together 4 years for the first 3 years we lived together then he moved in with a roomate and things havent been the same and to top it off im pregnant almost 4 months along with his baby thats he doesnt want. its hard enough being pregnant in itself then all this...it hurst really bad and then the next minute im like thinking positive when one door another opens. but even when we were together it wasnt a good relationship he rarely talked to me and im trying to figure why it hurts so much im not losing a good man i guess it may be sorta like hes my comfort zone without him i will have to be newly single and start over again does anyone feel like this also. im in memphis tn now. i met him almost 4 years ago when i was driving from N.C to cali and we kept in contact and i basically moved here for him so since we arent togther now i feel like i just need to move back to where im from and be free but i dont want to feel as if im running away from the situation either. its true that i will have his baby and if i move he wont be able to see him or her but he never wanted it in the first place.... but i will get my child support. thankyou all i just wanted to vent and see if anyone else was in the same boat im in....

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 12:07pm

You will have good days and bad days. You need to be where your support system is, even if it means moving. It's not running away when the choice is being alone or having a good support system.

What have you decided?


Carrie

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Registered: 12-23-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 12:34pm
yes i'd suggest moving back. its not running away. you moved here for HIM. and now you are going back to where you belong.. its a sign you want to put your life back in order. away from his spell over you which makes you stayin such a horrible place. and obviously your mind is rebelling against it and says that its weak t run coz secretly you want to stay as well. with him. but yes do fightthe urge to stay - pack up and leave. you sound strong. leave . this isn't a great place to b e in. aroud him . dropping for breakfast or whatever. AND not to want his baby. leave. start iver. its scary. but what cold be worse than this???!!!! i mean carrying the hcildof a man who doesnt want it or you. good luck . keep us posted. hope it goes well. do whats best for you AND your child. theres 2 of you now.
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Registered: 12-30-2006
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 11:07am
well im still a rollercoaster of emotions you know how pregnant women are...lol. im kind of debating on waiting till my kids get out of school in may ill be almost 8 months pregnant then or just packing up my car putting my stuff in storage and leaving at tax time. my finaces arent the greatest at the moment ive recently lost my job but besides all thati can do this its just getting the time right i will move ..
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