To call or not to call?!
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To call or not to call?!
| Fri, 07-27-2007 - 10:10am |
Ex and I broke up nearly 3 months ago...and have been completely NC for three weeks (but haven't seen each other since breakup)...then out of the blue, last night, he called and left a 6 minute message about how he has wanted to call forever and was reminded of it last night when something reminded him of me....that he wants to catch up and see how my summer is going and wanted to know how various things (training/apartment/friend) situations were going--details I'm surprised he still even remembered--I've tried my best these past 3 weeks to keep the NC...but I really do miss him (3 months later...i know!) I've been dating someone else but can't get my mind off of the ex...and now this phone call. Why? What is he thinking? Do I return the call? I know I'm supposed to keep the NC but we didn't end badly and I do want him in my life...thoughts? Friends have taken both sides...one being just to ignore it..move forward not backwards...and others have said that you have to take risks in love...I have no idea what to do...HELP!

If you want to stay in painful limbo and lengthen the recovery process, then call.
It really sounds like he's just being friendly. Are you really ready to be best buds with him and hear all about any dates he might be having?
And how fair would it be to the new person you are dating? (Well, I'm not sure how fair it is for you to be dating him period, given how strong your feelings are for your ex, but that's another issue)
Sheri