Came across his #...to call or not?

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Came across his #...to call or not?
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 8:17am
Hi Everyone,

I just recently moved into my new apartment and was hooking up my phone that I haven't used in 1 1/2 yrs. I was trying to figure some things out when I came across and old directory of 'Last called' #s. His was one of them.

So this got me wanting to call him...(background, we went out for a little over a yr and then he broke up with me, saying he didn't have any romantic feelings for me and he didn't want a serious relationship. I was 22, he was 23. We broke up Nov. 2003. After that, I spoke to him once since his dog died, but that was in February). I hav't spoken to him in 8 months, or seen him in almost a year (he lives in NJ, I'm in PA).

I was just thinking of giving him a quick call to say hi, but not sure if it would actually make things worse (we didn't end badly, I jut told him I coulnd't speak to him because it hurt too much. Hence, he never called, nor did I).

Any thoughts? What would you do in my situation?

Thanks for all commenets!
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 11:47am
Tough one. I don't think you should call. I know it may be tempting. Maybe an e-mail if you really feel the need? I just don't see much good coming out of it, since you guys ended badly. Of course, I've been known to be wrong about many things in my day, so......go with what your gut is telling you to do.

Good luck,

Karen

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 11:20pm
I'm sure by now you've already made your decison to call or not to call but if you haven't.....I wouldn't if you can help it....it may just bring up bad times. But if you can't resist go for it....but be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Good luck and keep us posted!!
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Registered: 12-22-2003
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 9:09am
Actually, it didn't end badly. I mean, as far as a break up could go, it was very civil and I tried to be honest about saying a frienship wouldn't be possible right now because it hurt too bad. It certainly wasn't a messy break up.

And no, I didn't call...Although, I JUST moved so that has been keeping me very very busy and I was at a wedding all day yesterday. But then the wedding got me thinking...the priest was saying how love is unconditional, always kind, never jealous or hurtful. And when I looked back at my relationship, I guess it wasn't that perfect kind of love. And should I really settle for that?

These are my thoughts right now about it. I want a relationship better than we had, and if he does too, then I really think he would've called by now to reconcile, or made an effort to show me that he was wrong. And that hasn't happened, and probably never will (That is, until I'm already in another relationship with the perfect man, and we're happily engaged. Cause that's just how things work, apparantly.)

I'm glad I waited on this one rather than jump the gun, just to be shot down.

Thanks, everyone.

Shannon