can he stop loving me so soon?

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Registered: 09-13-2004
can he stop loving me so soon?
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Mon, 09-13-2004 - 10:46am
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for over 2 years. When he lost his job, I had to start paying for rent, bills, etc. myself, but I loved him so much I didn't really mind. When he finally found a job, he was suppose to start helping pay for rent, bills, etc., but he wouldn't, kept putting one excuse after the other why he couldn't give me money, everytime we went out I still had to pay for everything because he was always broke. I became very upset and told him to leave, I wanted him to learn to have responsibilities, I was getting very stressed out, I felt he was taking advantage of me. He went to live with his mom, so he didn't have to have housing expenses. We remained seeing each other, he kept coming by my house and telling me he still loved me, that we needed some time away from each other. But he started going out with his friends and brothers, all of the sudden the emails and calls stopped, he stopped coming around and I knew something was going on, but everytime I try to ask, he would deny seeing anyone, he said he was just very busy. I just found out this weekend he's being seeing someone else he just met a week ago so I sent him a very nasty email, but he didn't respond back, when I called him at his mothers first he asked who I was, started telling me that I threw him out, and that what was he suppose to do? was very mean and told me if he was seeing somebody else it was none of my business, then said he was going out that he had to leave and hung up on me. I never saw this side of him, I'm so hurt, I can't stop crying, I can't sleep, can't eat. Could he possibly still love me?? Is he just going threw a face? I miss him so much, would he ever come back? How can he just start loving someone else when for over 2 years I was everything to him?
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 9:15am
I honestly have no idea what is going on in this guy's head....I'm sorry hun. I know it's very confusing. He owes you an explaination...but that doesn't mean you'll get one. He's not acting very mature, and sounds like he's twisting things in his head. Let him go. You don't want this guy.....you may think you do, but give it some time. He's treating you very badly,and you don't deserve that. Take care,

Karen