Can it ever work 2nd /3rd/4th time?
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Can it ever work 2nd /3rd/4th time?
| Thu, 07-21-2005 - 12:10am |
Hey guys,
I was just wondering if anybody in this world has ever had a miracle. You know gone througha ll the drama that we have an actually gotten back together with an ex and things worked out. I always read where people say "forget about him and move on" but has anybody ever had the man come to his senses and actually change. I would really like to hear some happy endings some time. I don't know if i am a fool or a hopeless romantic that just believes that people are not perfect..Jesus did not give up on us and I know that my ex's heart is good but i also did some things that were hurtful to him. I keep hopeing that time will heal his wounds as well and allow him to open his heart again. I do believe that he is my soulmate but we have both hurt each other and need to heal. He did try a rebound girl but it did not work and we tried to jump back together to soon. I think that he does need the time to heal and i need the time to slow down and really decide what i want to give...I just would like to hear the other side of the story sometime. I know that there has to be some....... I don't want to think that there can't be.
I was just wondering if anybody in this world has ever had a miracle. You know gone througha ll the drama that we have an actually gotten back together with an ex and things worked out. I always read where people say "forget about him and move on" but has anybody ever had the man come to his senses and actually change. I would really like to hear some happy endings some time. I don't know if i am a fool or a hopeless romantic that just believes that people are not perfect..Jesus did not give up on us and I know that my ex's heart is good but i also did some things that were hurtful to him. I keep hopeing that time will heal his wounds as well and allow him to open his heart again. I do believe that he is my soulmate but we have both hurt each other and need to heal. He did try a rebound girl but it did not work and we tried to jump back together to soon. I think that he does need the time to heal and i need the time to slow down and really decide what i want to give...I just would like to hear the other side of the story sometime. I know that there has to be some....... I don't want to think that there can't be.

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No, I've never had it happen, although I've tried again with a couple of exes. But any changes have only been temporary.
IMO, it *CAN* happen, but it's extremely rare. Your best bet is to move on and be open to finding someone else. You can't count on this guy and you shouldn't. If he comes back, great, but what if he doesn't? How much more of your life are you willing to spend pining for him?
Sheri
It feels good to know that i am not the only one who believes in soulmates. I also believe that my ex and I have the ability to get back together. I don't know if anybody can understand this but we had "passion" in our relationship. I think that it is different from love because it is more intense. Maybe that is why he is hurting so bad. Passion is that feeling that you get before you see your bf/gf and your chest gets tight and your breathing gets deep. It's the longing that you feel when you have just left them and you can't wait to see them again. My ex and i have been through a lot of ups and downs but we never really healed. He tried to forget about me by being with another girl but after 6 months he knew it was not the same and they broke up...but instead of us waiting and getting to know each other again we tried to rush back together and we didn't give ourselves time to heal and let our passion grow again. I know this may sound crazy but I truly believe that he misses me but he wants to be able to give that passion and have that passion that we had before...... I am not looking for love or sex... I want to feel that passion that i felt with him....I am not going to cheat myself ...... If it's not passion it's nothing at all
I hope someone understands!!!!
What you're describing sounds more like obsession than passion, and that's not healthy...you might try reading "Obsessive Love" by Susan Forward.
Sheri
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