Can't find the nerves to break up
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| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:15pm |
Hi everyone,
I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. Nothing is going "wrong" exactly, but I just don't seem to have the feelings I once did for him. I care about him so much- he's a wonderful guy and I would never want to hurt him.
I find myself attracted to other men and I don't long for him like I used to. I don't know if this is a maturity issue for me or if he's just not the one. He told me that I was the one for him and it just made me feel horrible because I'm not as certain about our relationship as he is.
My feeling is that I need to break it off because he should be with someone who does have those feelings for him. But when I think of him with someone else, I get horribly upset.
Maybe we should have time apart? How do I suggest this without hurting him?

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I think you're going through what a lot of people go through right around this time in a relationship, when things start to get a little more real and the rose-colored glasses start to come off :)
I don't know how to tell the difference.
"My feeling is that I need to break it off because he should be with someone who does have those feelings for him. But when I think of him with someone else, I get horribly upset"
Well deal with it! If you have doubts and want to date other men then it is his right to move on and meet someone else. If it upsets you too bad--you can't have your cake and eat it too.
Be honest and tell him about your true feelings. If you start avoiding him, if will spoil the relationship. But telling someone about what you feel on his face will definitely hurt him but he will get the courage to Move on. Don't dwindle things and keep him in dark as my GF did. I would never forgive her entire my life.
Hope this helps.
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