Can't find the nerves to break up
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| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 11:15pm |
Hi everyone,
I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. Nothing is going "wrong" exactly, but I just don't seem to have the feelings I once did for him. I care about him so much- he's a wonderful guy and I would never want to hurt him.
I find myself attracted to other men and I don't long for him like I used to. I don't know if this is a maturity issue for me or if he's just not the one. He told me that I was the one for him and it just made me feel horrible because I'm not as certain about our relationship as he is.
My feeling is that I need to break it off because he should be with someone who does have those feelings for him. But when I think of him with someone else, I get horribly upset.
Maybe we should have time apart? How do I suggest this without hurting him?

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See curious, you have answered your own question, you love being with him but to him it appears that you love him . Until you make things clear to him he wouldn't be able to figure that out. I would recommend you should make things clear with him and take a short break off the relation and see where things go on from that. If you still develop feelings for him you can always go back but by telling him your true feelings, the guy would be clear and can move on. Be prepared for by the time you get back to him and if he has already moved on, that means this relationship was never meant to be.
Last night I got a email from my EX, that whatever we have/had between us , its over. Now it put me in a right perspective.
Hope this helps.
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