Can't let go since he's still holding me
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Can't let go since he's still holding me
| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 11:03pm |
My boyfriend of almost a year and I broke up about 2 months ago. However, I am still desperately in love with him and he tells me he loves me, but he also talks about this girl he knows and how they have hung out a couple times. Also, he acknowlledges that no one will have the same thing that I had with him. 2 weeks ago, we were chilling and we ended up fooling around. Then the next day we hooked up again. At work the next week, though, he completely ignored me. Today, though we kissed again. What the hell does he want from me? All I want is for him to put his head in my hair and tell me he loves me and know that it is in the way that I want him to.

Edited 5/4/2006 12:24 am ET by dansfoxywife
It sounds like he wants the benefits of your company and to have the ego boost of your attention, but none of the obligations of being in a relationship. He's a "cake eater" in other words...he wants to have his cake and eat it too. And so long as you let him, this will go on indefinitely (or until he gets all caught up with another woman). It's up to you to say, "this isn't enough for me...call me if and when you are sure you want to get back together, but until then, I need you to leave me alone".
Sheri
"What the hell does he want from me?"
Sex, attention and affection, no strings attached.
If you want to change the dynamics of this situation, you are going to have to be the one to set boundaries and be strong.
Carrie