can't seem to get over him

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2007
can't seem to get over him
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Fri, 11-02-2007 - 12:32am

it has been 6 weeks now. and no contact. i had been feeling better, felt like i realized he was not for me. had not been thinking about him as much. even called a guy from a dating website, talked to him twice and i am gonna meet him for dinner. but today when i logged on to that site, for my matches, my ex was at the top of the list. and i was just startled to see him there. and i thought what is he looking for??? what does he want? what will he find that is better than me, better than i was to him, who will love him and accept him no matter what (he is a recovered drug addict). i mean, i thought i was doing so much better, and then boom, it is like day 1 of the break-up all over again. he was such a warm, caring person. i think he felt he could not get too involved, that it brought imbalance to his rigid lifestyle, due to his recovery, and he made an impulsive decision and ran. and i have not heard a word since, in 6 weeks. but while techonology is great for things like this message board, it sucks to see you ex on dating websites knowing that when he is logged in, he is surfing for other girls to write, or talking to other girls, and makes you wonder why i was not good enough for him. my sister, she says he is looking for someone who does not want to be with him, since it seems he is not really ready for a relationship. afterall he said in his profile that he wants someone who is happy being

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-04-2007 - 1:15pm

Hi ibiscool,


Six weeks is good, but really not long enough to get over a relationship completely.