Can't stop thinking of him and her :(
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| Sat, 07-09-2005 - 3:33am |
After 10 years together, my fiance of 2 years broke up with me. This happened almost two months ago. It's been the worst pain I have ever gone through. It was unbearable in the beginning. I didn't think I could continue living. Not to sound overly dramatic, but I really didn't know how I was going to live.
Within 3 weeks, he was set up by his friends, dating a new girl, and actually liked her! This was like a knife in my heart. It hurt and continues to hurt so badly. I can't get the two of them out of my mind.
He said that he had fallen out of love. I guess maybe he was ready for a relationship, although I can't even imagine. I can't even think of dating someone, let alone having feelings for them. I don't know if it's a rebound, or what. I guess it doesn't matter.
How do you move on from this? How do I get my mind to STOP thinking about them together? I feel so easily replaced, forgotten about, insignificant, so easy to get over. Rejection might feel worse than anything else. Thanks.

My boyfriend and I had only been together a year, so I can't completely relate to your pain, but I can somewhat. I just saw my ex of 3 weeks with his new girl (which we work with by the way...yes, my ex and i work together...) yesterday...She just graduated highschool and he's going to be a senior in college this upcoming semester....What does this chick have that I don't? Like you, I can't even think of dating someone right now, nor do I find anyone attractive, or even want to do these things. I feel like I've been replaced....His first love (he says I am...he had never had a serious relationship until me...and I don't doubt that I'm his first love....)just basically forgotten about for some young chick.
Just like many have told me about my situation, it's very possible that your ex had spent time contemplating the breakup giving himself time to kind of separate himself from the relationship which is why he may have been ready to date....It hurts a lot and it's so hard to understand how they can do stuff like this because most women just aren't like that. Maybe rushing onto the next one is just their coping mechanism....I couldn't have been easy for him to leave after 10 years...nor could it have been easy for my ex to leave his first significant relationship.
We'll be okay...I know it will take time, but we will get through this. Maybe you should practice the thought stopping stuff someone posted on here....one of the things that I do is I wear a rubberband all the time and snap it when I think of something I don't want to be thinking about....people might think you're nuts, but it helps. Take care and keep coming back here...we're here to support eachother.