Cheated on me with is ex-wife
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Cheated on me with is ex-wife
| Tue, 05-23-2006 - 11:16pm |
I hope someone out there can give me some insight. I am a single mom who has been raising her toddler alone from the beginning of her life. I met this man, who soon became my boss and we fell in love about a month later. He is divorced with two children and he openly trashes his ex-wife because she cheated on him more than once and that is what broke up their marriage. Needless to say it was complicated attempting to raise 3 children together when we didn't have them together. He is 12 years older than me and often put me down for my lack of understanding of the world. We were together and even engaged off and on over the last year and a half. I broke off the engagement because he was verbally abusive and would always turn it around on me that I was the cause. He would give me the silent treatment, I would sleep alone because he would refuse to sleep with me. Well we were broken up for about 2 1/2 months but all that time he kept in contact with me. I got a new job and moved about 14 miles away and he would invite himself over all the time and call me 8 times a day and basically once again made himself indispensible to me. Well I let my guard down just two weeks ago and started to feel for him again, love him and began sleeping with him again. We spent a wonderful day together just this weekend and his ex-wife emailed him a picture of herself. Why??? I asked myself the same question and she had also text messaged him 3 weeks ago that she "loved him". So I demanded to contact her back and advise her we were together and it was inappropriate for her to be sending these kinds of things to her "ex-husband". She immediately retorted with some lame excuse as to why she sent the picture and then profanely asked if I knew "how often my boyfriend requested oral sex from her?". I went into total shock, I normally would respond to this with anger at the thought of he and I and what we had been doing physically and he was cheating on me. Instead I had a nervous breakdown and cried all night long. I asked him point blank if he had done it and he deflected it all on me saying I provoked her to send the message out of my immaturity. He never acknowledged her accusation and continued to berate me until he started with the silent treatment again. He then attempted to have sex with me and out of some sad need to feel like he still loved me I let him. I am not proud of that. The next morning when we spoke he refused to talk about anything regarding the situation with me and was disdainful to me. He has since broken up with me and refused to speak to me claiming I am emotionally immature and can't cope with the fact he has an ex-wife.
Please give me some words of wisdom. I am devastated and beaten down.
Please give me some words of wisdom. I am devastated and beaten down.
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| Wed, 05-24-2006 - 12:40pm |
(((HUGS))) and honestly, I think you should just write him off permanently so you can move on and forge some sort of a happy life for yourself and your child, without his foolishness and the hurt he causes you.
