checking email obsession

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Registered: 06-19-2004
checking email obsession
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 6:59am
Is it normal to check my email every day, like 20 times -probably even much much more- (to see if he emailed)...even if I turn the computer off and want to go to bed, sometimes I turn it on again quickly to check because you never know... AAAAAh its driving me insane!!!!!!!!! Anyone got any suggestions how to get rid of this obsession?

Samie

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 8:17am
Oh yes, I remember doing that too. I think there comes a point where that obsession just fades. I think exhaustion takes over a some point, and sleep becomes more important. I remember getting up a few times a night, then it was once, then I realized that he wasn't sending any email, and whatever he was going to send could wait til later. I also realized that whatever he had to say would just make me feel worse anyway.

On top of that, I was the one who couldn't sleep. I can be fairly certain he was snug in his bed, sleeping without a care in the world with no desire to get out of bed and email me.

So like every other thing that has to do with getting over someone, the obsession will slowly go away. One morning you will wakeup and realize you slept right through the times you would have gotten up and check your email.
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 8:19am
I have this problem periodically at work (and unrelated to breakup). Lately, it's not a problem because there is nothing pressing. However, when I do have something pressing, what I do is tell myself: you can check it in 15 minutes. And after that, 30 minutes. Do something else for 15 minutes or so---at night perhaps you'll fall asleep waiting for that 15 minutes to pass by! I know it's hard at first but I find that after the 3rd or so time (especially when there is no email), it becomes easier. Good luck.