is this childish?

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Registered: 05-16-2003
is this childish?
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Sun, 10-07-2007 - 1:02am

My ex and I broke up about a month ago and we have to work together on the weekends.. We were together for 3 years.

Gina
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Registered: 10-01-2007
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 2:41pm

I always see a red flag when a guy does a 180. You broke up and now he's trying to be all nice to you, hmmm...


I have always had a problem with men. Always will. I spent my entire teenage and early adult life being every guy's 2nd (or 3rd or 4th or 5th, you get it) choice. I was always the "rebound girl" or the "subsitute". So a lot of times, I assume things and I never ever give men the benefit of the doubt.


But it's extremely fishy when a guy breaks your heart and then all of a sudden tries to be nice to you. I've been there, done that.


I've been used by a guy, then they got their ex back and cut it off with me. Then lo and behold a few months later "Hey Teddy, what's up? How you been? How's it going?!"


I don't think so.


Too bad we aren't as dumb as they think we are.

Sometimes, I guess there just aren't enough rocks...

Sometimes, I guess there just aren't enough rocks...

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 2:54pm

Hi skittlesrock,


It's hard to have normal conversation when you aren't fully healed yet and he's acting like it's no big deal.


You might find this helpful:


Handling Breakups at Work

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 9:03pm

Thanks for posting the links to my posts!

Gina
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Sun, 10-07-2007 - 9:17pm

Good for you! We're pretty proud of you too. It's fantastic when someone keeps it together as per advice.

I don't think it was childish at all. As your friend, he needs to know when to respect your need for time alone. And unfortunately he doesn't seem to be getting it. --''. Cordial, distant, and happy, my rule of thumb.

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your