Choosing between two - Please Help!

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Choosing between two - Please Help!
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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 4:23pm

I'm new to the msg board so please bare with me.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Mon, 09-24-2007 - 11:41pm

What I THINK and would DO in your situation - I would divorce the husband. Most likely people will disagree but abuse under ANY circumstances is something that nobody should have to go through.

And I've seen WAY too many times, when my dad would go to 'anger management', things would be really great for a while, and when he knew my mom had settled in to stay this time, it would cycle again. I don't trust it when people change 'for you' because once they get what they want from you, the motivation to continue that behavior is no longer there and the cycle goes on again.

But again, that's only advice, and chances are you'll get different (and perhaps better) advice from other posters.

Susanna

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 09-25-2007 - 12:31pm

Welcome to the board xansmom,


While he went to anger management, it doesn't mean that he would no longer be abusive.

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Tue, 09-25-2007 - 1:04pm

Unfortunately, I have not went to counseling.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 09-25-2007 - 1:14pm
Call 1-800-977-SAFE not because you need to go to a shelter, but because they can put you in contact with a good support group.




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Registered: 09-24-2007
Tue, 09-25-2007 - 1:17pm
thank you.