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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 10:35pm |
Hello everyone. I am new to this board. I've been reading posts for about a week or two now.
My ex and I had been together 3 years, friends for over 10. Honestly, I don't even have the heart to get into the issues of it all right now. I am beside myself with sadness. :..(
My question for all of you is this...
How do you get over someone when you have absolutely NO closure...and no forseen possibility of getting it?
I do understand the NC thing. But, there is soooooooo much left unsaid, and I feel that he owes me an explanation. Any thoughts or advice will be greatly appreciated.
My ex and I had been together 3 years, friends for over 10. Honestly, I don't even have the heart to get into the issues of it all right now. I am beside myself with sadness. :..(
My question for all of you is this...
How do you get over someone when you have absolutely NO closure...and no forseen possibility of getting it?
I do understand the NC thing. But, there is soooooooo much left unsaid, and I feel that he owes me an explanation. Any thoughts or advice will be greatly appreciated.

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You've gotten some great advice already. I just want to add a few things.
You asked:
So again, is closure possible when you are sure that you were perfect for each other and no way of sorting out why not?
Yes, closure is possible. When you put it to bed so to speak. When you decide and know and believe that nothing he could possibly say could change things. For instance, if he said anything, hmm, like 'it's over because, you did X or won't do Y.' Chances are you will argue with him, try to fix it or change things, because you don't want it to be over.
Besides, at this point you are the only one that thinks you were 'perfect' together. It takes two people working on a relatinship for it to continue.
Start journal writing. Vent on paper everything you want to say to him, over and over again if need be until you feel better. Write him UNSENT letters, blasting him, etc. then burn them.
Carrie
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