Clueless

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Registered: 11-23-2007
Clueless
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Wed, 12-26-2007 - 6:30pm

Is it normal to be totally confused about what you want?
I mean I know its normal, but as some of you may know my boyfriend ended our six year relationship... and I'm sooo confused. Its not only about the relatinship itself but also about other aspects in my life. It seems that by breaking up, Pandora's box was opened and now I have all these doubts about my life and the way I want to live it. Do I like what I do? Do I feel comfortable in the city where I live? Do I like the way I dress, eat, breathe, feel, sleep?

And while I've been having second thoughts about the break up righ from the very begining, I don't want to do anything about it. Yeah of course getting some kind of closure would be nice, of course opening the window for a reconciliation would be nice... but I'm talking about doubts that go beyond the scope of the actual relationship and I just don't know what to do for starters....

I feel like I'm going through a second adolecence but now I'm 28 and seriously I have no idea about what I wan't. Not the tiniest clue. Is this happening to someone else?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emilia79
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 11:34pm
I think what you feel is normal emilia79. Sometimes soul-searching comes close on the heels of a break up.