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co dependent
| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 5:13pm |
I have been with a co dependent person for too long. How do I cut it off. I told him and I am waiting for the papers to be ready. I have avoied all 29 calls today alone. I am tired of him calling. He calls me all day long even throughout the early morning hours. I have a job. I can not sleep. I am sick, because of the stress. I hate this. His messages are getting verbally abusive and now he has showed up at my house a couple of times. Stalking is not fun. But what can I do. I have told him its over. A roller coaster ride is not what I want. Leave me alone. We can not make this work. I am tired. His abusive language is enough to call it quits. He gets mad a the smallest things then its all my fault. I am beginning to hate him. But this dependent relationship is over and I am not going to let it go on. How do I make him stop.

Yikes, 29 times! That's terrible.
What kind of papers are you referring to? Divorce? Restraining order? Please clarify.
Is he calling you on your cell phone or another number?
Sheri
We have been seperated for over four years though. Only "married" for 5 months.
I have not had the money to file the papers. I know what kind of person he is but when it gets to the point of intrupting my day I get nervous. He has called my office three times but other than that just my cell phone and home phone. I can not change my cell because then he will call my daughters cell. not his kid. So I do not need him harrassing her.
You have my prayers.
You were only married 5 months - separated for 4 yrs - I don't think he's going to come to his senses. I think he's obsessed. I agree with whomever suggested a restraining order and changing telephone numbers (including your daughters).
I'm confused though, do you think him co-dependent or you?
Carrie
After all this time, you can't make him stop. Only law enforcement can. If he comes by again, I would suggest going to stay with someone or a safe house. Don't feel like you have to take his abuse to protect your daughter. You can get a restraining order for both of you. How much will a restraining order cost? Maybe you can borrow the money.
Sheri, can't she file a restraining order pro se with a minimum of court costs? You may want to see about free legal services in your county. Try your courthouse.