Commitmentphobe just doesn't like us?
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Commitmentphobe just doesn't like us?
| Sun, 12-09-2007 - 10:32am |
I wonder how much what we think is a man being a commitmentphobe is really them not being into you enough to treat the woman he's with like she deserves.
I dated a guy who

If someone has commitment issues,
Many times I see women use the word commitmentphobe to describe a man who just wasn't being all that. Whether he was inattentive, skittish, or whether she was maybe expecting more from him and the relationship than was warranted, etc., like Sheri said, in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter *why* someone is the way they are, what we each need to deal with is the behavior *at hand.*
While maybe you didn't handle that particular breakup in the best way you could, I can completely understand why that straw finally broke the camel's back and you simply reacted. It wasn't just that one time, it was all of them rolled up beforehand, too. Having a conscience, you apologized. Again, it's best to try and apologize "in person" and not via message, but he pretty much gave you no more options by that point. Do yourself a huge favor and don't let either you or him use what you did to eclipse what he did.
In cases like the text you got, I tend to believe those come about because it went out to their address book, and you happen to still be in his phone and leave it at that. It couldn't be less personal if you get what I mean. That wasn't him trying to open the communication door again. I'd lose very little sleep over him and how he's feeling about this whole thing.
The heart of your post is in this question: ....."But really, if he liked me so much why would he have let all this happen and why would you ever treat someone less than wonderful if you like them so much?"..... And the answer once you take out the 'whys' because no answer to a why question makes it "all better," is no.
Sorry you had to go though that. Some people just don't get it.