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| Wed, 03-07-2007 - 8:11pm |
recently posted about how my ex dumped me (horriblee break up, really messy) and it's only been three and a half months and he has recently started trying ot talk to me. he dumped me becasue he had no feelings, and i have pretty much moved on, but now he makes it into a joke hwen i ignore him at school. he thinks it's funny that i still ignore him. he says im being immature. when i walk by he's like "5 bucks that if i say hi to her she'll ignore me hahaha" and then he'll like tap me on the shoulder and give me him trasah to throw away (and me, trying to be the immature one...take his trash and throw it away) and i turn around and he yells thanks.
i dont underestand. i dont want to know him (i dont even feel like i do) and we are both doing fine not talking. so why now try to initiate stupid immature mean annoying interactions. like...he says hi online jsut to see if i'll answer ( i never do) and then he goes and tells people i'm immature for not answering. i just dont want him in my life, and it was fine when we both did not talk to eachother. but now i feel trapped and no contact LITERALLY is impossible because he keeps forcing me into sitations where i have to awknowledge him or look like an immautre fool! i'm so confused.
i just want to be over it, and im on the right path. but he is making it so hard. should i just say hi and pretend like it doesnt bother me at all, but not have a conversation with him? or should i continue the ignoring (seeems really immautre to me, and he is makign it impossbile)
i know he doesnt want to talk to me in a sincere way, he just sees this as some kind of game and it's REALLY not funny. the least he could do is respect me and not talk to me. it should be clear if i'm moved on and not talkign to him, that i don't want to be.
so does anyone think its a bad idea to even maybe initiate a little smile and a "hey" just to show that i'm the mature one and over it? i dont want to get sucked back into his drama filled, endless pit of misery (meaning, i dont want to taelk to him before its time) but i dont ithnk there eever will be time and i dont even KNOW him anymore. weould it be the worst idea to give a wave once in a while to shut him up and show im moved on?
any advice?

Hi socompletelylost,
Here's links to your previous post so people can catch up with your story:
when will the false hope fade?
I'm not sure why you would reward his immature behavior by giving him what he wants (and he would just keep upping the ante even if you do). Treat him like you would someone you have to be polite to but don't want to talk to--nod hello in a businesslike way (without a smile) to simply acknowledge his presence and keep moving.
Sheri