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| Tue, 08-07-2007 - 9:36am |
Hello..I am 29 and I have been in a relationship for almost 6 years with someone 14 years older.My family doesn't like him,cause of the age difference and the fact that he is unstable as far as job is concerned.He always changes careers and gets bored easily. I'd say he is a bit immature for his age.He is a great guy, treats me great, loves me very much and I love him too.To tell you the truth,i wasn't sure if I wanted to marry him.I dont know if I feel secure to start a family with him. I could never though end the relationship and so 6 years passed..
Recently I met someone online.We are the same age, he's a doctor, he is very mature and funny.We met in person and although we don't live near, we get along very well.If I wasn't in a relationship we'd probably start dating.
Since I've met him,I've started feeling different about my boyfriend.I see all his negative things, I get annoyed by his immaturity, all the problems scream in front of my face!I cant even have sex with him any more.He knows sthg is going on and tries to do his best to keep me with him. I honestly don't know what to do.He even told me to get married,but I told him I need time to think.He's starting a new business(again!!) and he promises it's the last and that he wants to settle down with me. When he understands I'm thinking of leaving him, he gets depressed, he cries and I feel sorry and guilty..
The new guy told me that I must first decide what to do with my boyfriend and then we can talk about the 2 of us..He is right!The problem is we are falling into each other more and more.. On the other hand,I can't stand hurting my boyfriend and thinking that he is miserable because of me.Please don't judge me hard..I don't know what to do!Any suggestion is welcome. I am on the verge of taking pills to relax my mind and my heart..
Thank you, Fotini
Recently I met someone online.We are the same age, he's a doctor, he is very mature and funny.We met in person and although we don't live near, we get along very well.If I wasn't in a relationship we'd probably start dating.
Since I've met him,I've started feeling different about my boyfriend.I see all his negative things, I get annoyed by his immaturity, all the problems scream in front of my face!I cant even have sex with him any more.He knows sthg is going on and tries to do his best to keep me with him. I honestly don't know what to do.He even told me to get married,but I told him I need time to think.He's starting a new business(again!!) and he promises it's the last and that he wants to settle down with me. When he understands I'm thinking of leaving him, he gets depressed, he cries and I feel sorry and guilty..
The new guy told me that I must first decide what to do with my boyfriend and then we can talk about the 2 of us..He is right!The problem is we are falling into each other more and more.. On the other hand,I can't stand hurting my boyfriend and thinking that he is miserable because of me.Please don't judge me hard..I don't know what to do!Any suggestion is welcome. I am on the verge of taking pills to relax my mind and my heart..
Thank you, Fotini

Welcome to the board froula2007,
You probably already know that nothing is going to change with your boyfriend.
What might help you the most is to create some distance between you and both of these men until you can figure things out, because doing otherwise is not only unfair to everyone (you included) but also very confusing.
You really want to figure things out, take some time off for yourself.