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| Fri, 01-25-2008 - 10:15am |
sorry this is long....my boyfriend and i ended it yesterday. we hadbeen together for almost a year and a half. it had been very hard for the past few months, we were trying very hard, though its true i was trying harder. he had a lot of stuff from his past that was effecting him, though he still doesnt see it. and the way he defended himself was very hurtful. he was also cheated on by his girlfriend before me and always had trust issues with me for no reason but that. i ended up breaking up with him wednesday night on the phone really quickly because on an argument. he called the next day saying he'll come on sunday to give my stuff back. i told him id rather go on a break but he insisted that a break up would be better for both of us.
we both saw it coming, it had been really hard lately. i went home early from work yesterday and talked to my dad for a while. he knows its good for me adn everyone around me agrees that i'll get better. ive been sick again from stress (do to stomach problems) and mentally i havent been well or happy for a while.
as i was talking to my dad, the phone kept rining but i didnt answer it casue my dad was really helping. i checked and it had been my boyfriend, he called 3 times and left a VM saying hey sweetheart i just wanted to say i love you. i didnt call back. he left a text at 2 am saying i love you baby. i texted him back asking why he was sayign that since we just broke up. he called me and said that he still thinks its for the best if we break up but that he loves me very much. i said if we still love one another why not just let it be a break adn try again in a month or so. he said that a break up will be better, and if something happens in the future thats great, but who knows. i told him id rather just not hear that he loves me and givin gme false hopes, to just tell me it wont ever happen, he said he couldnt. i told him how hard this is, and that i cant stand knowing he'll be with other girls. he said he has no intention of it and is still very much in love with and couldnt be with someone anyways right now. he said it would be hard for him to change, and just as hard to not love me.
we both are still very much in love but it just wasnt working and i do need time to get better for myself. but i really want to see what will happen in a month. i was wondering if thats a bad idea?or if its stupid. im so in love with him but i need time to get better. does it ever happen, getting back together after a break?

Welcome to the board stepheb,
Sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, you will have to be the one to set boundaries and enforce them.
so just pretend im okay. i want him to come back but i do need my space too. im seeing him on sunda so he can give me some stuff back, should i just act fine? or will that make him think i dont even want him back.
i know he may say he loves me to not look bad, but i told him id rather him not and he says its hard not to say it, that he loves me so much and always will, i believe him. im hoping space will make us both realise we are better together, do you think so?
Space will make you understand if you can work things thru or not. A month is probably not a