Confused about relationship
Find a Conversation
Confused about relationship
| Thu, 03-08-2007 - 3:57pm |
Hi guys... I posted a little while ago about my boyfriend of 5 months. We were on a break and I decided that I needed to move on and didnt contact him at all. We went off the break recently and went through the fight about whether or not he wants to be with me. Well we talked a lot about it and I was all set to move on. There was a reason for the break. I feel like I should give you some background so I can get some non-biased advice. He is about to move in three months. He is starting his residency and wants to start fresh in his new city...whereever that may be. Apparently, it has nothing to do with me even though he said some very hurtful stuff. He just feels like Im asking for a commitment for three months from now. He knows he doesn't want to break it off. So we finally decide on casual dating. Well in the past week... He has called me once and I've asked him to hang out three times and I feel like its pulling teeth. He has been really busy getting stuff together for his residency stuff and getting back some of his independence, but so have I. I have been getting out there and hanging out with my friends, going out and flirting, etc. I just don't understand why he is doing this. If he wants a more casual relationship, then doesnt that mean we need to talk and see each other? We want to see what we mean to each other...yet I feel like Im making all the effort and im not going to get anything back. If I'm his best friend, then how come Im not getting the same courtesy as his other best friends... I feel like Im at the bottome of his list right underneath "Scrap dogpoop off shoes". Do you all think it is a lost cause? Should I just move on and not even bother? It seems like its the wrong place and time. I miss him so much, but I think it would be easier to do no contact. I was actually starting to make progress during the break, because I considered it over. Now I feel like Im on a string. I don't know if I should wait it out for a bit or just move on. Im just really confused right now.

Yes: I think it would be easier to do no contact.
And feel free to email me anytime for support for this, I'm in the same boat.