confused about what road to take

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Registered: 06-09-2005
confused about what road to take
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:55pm

My fiance of a year and half broke up with me lastnight. The sad part is is that we just found out that I am pregnant lastweek. It took me a longtime to come to the decision to have another child because I already have four girls. Now I don't know what to do.

We have had our fair share of problems, our biggest is his deciding on what to do with the house that he owns. I had already spoken to a realtor about listing mine. I know that I have contributated to some of the problems in our relationship, because I have a hard time being understanding.

Need help on what to do? I do not see us getting back together.

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 6:08pm

hi cherrybooty72

dont let him run away for his responsibility please!!!! like you mention you already had 4 kids(its that right or maybe 4yrs old girl) i'm not SURE whatever it is...LET HIM BE A MAN..YOU DONT WANT YOUR CHILD TO GROW UP WITHOUT A DADDY RIGHT...I MEAN THIS TIME DONT THINK ABOUT YOURSELF THINK OF YOUR KIDS....THEY WILL NEED HIM!!! MAYBE THERES OTHER WAY TO WORK EVERYTHING OUT....LIKE YOU MENTION YOU DONT SEE ANY SIGN THAT YOU GUYS BE BACK....OH YAH!!!!! IF ONLY YOU LET HIM GET AWAY WTH IT YES THERE NO WAY...WHY DONT YOU TRY AND TALK TO HIM FOR YOUR CHILD SAKE DO IT....I KNOW GUYS ARE ASS...H...LE AND ACT ST...PID ESP IF THEY GET THE WOMEN PREGNANT...I GUESS THATS THE WAY THEY ARE!!!!

<<<>>> this is just a advised good luck!!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 10:56am

cherrybooty72...

Pianoguy doesn't believe that ALL DADDY'S MAKE GOOD FATHERS!!! Being a role model for a child is a lot more difficult than 'contributing a drop or two of sperm!'

However...your former fiancee does have a responsibility when it comes to the care and feeding of the child he helped to create. So whether you want him to be part of your future son or daughter's life is a decision you should seriously think about!

I'd definitely consult with a legal advisor concerning your rights as a single parent. While the man (who got you pregnant) certainly doesn't have to marry you...he DOES have a responsibility where the child is concerned!

Most states have laws and guidelines regarding this sort of situation....so I suggest you research the ones that apply to where you live?

Good Luck!

Pianoguy