Confused and don't know what to do

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Confused and don't know what to do
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Mon, 08-06-2007 - 12:43pm
Three months ago I told my boyfriend of one year that I thought we should just be friends. The whole year we were together was very stressful due to sickness/death of a parent, work, kids, and I just needed some space. Since then we have still been eating
lunch together during the week. Last week he announced he was engaged. I have been in a tailspin ever since. I even had to call in sick this morning. I can't stop crying, can't eat sleep, or anything. I don't know what to do. I know I shouldn't call him. I did talk to him Friday but he hasn't returned any of my calls this weekend. If anyone can help I would be so grateful.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:04pm

Wow, I'm so sorry. That must be very hurtful--how on earth did he move on so quickly to the point of being *engaged* just 3 months after you broke up? Was he seeing someone while the two of you were still together? Did you have any inkling he was seriously involved with someone?

Of course the fact that you've kept in close contact means that you really haven't been able to move on and heal from the relationship so this has got to be especially tough. All you can do is start no contact now and just take one day at a time. Post as often as you need to--we'll try to be here for you.

Sheri

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 1:15pm

Welcome to the board victoria63,


He moved on fast.... You will have to take the time to grieve for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been.