confused on how to break away

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Registered: 06-24-2007
confused on how to break away
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 7:28pm
me and my boyfriend broke up today and it is one of the hardest things for me to handle. my heart is broken, i cant eat, and i am having crying spurs like Diane Keaton in the movie somethings got to give. i loved him so much, but he started acting different. i could just tell something was wrong, or that a change had occurred. when i confronted him today he said that he loved me more that he has ne one else before, but right now the timing had been off, he said that he was frustrated because i am an amazing person and had done everything to make him happy (which is very true) but he couldnt explain it but he didnt want a serious relationship. i was so shocked. i think the worst part of the whole thing is that i have to realize he is over me and its terrible because i remain to be head over heels for him. i love him so much, but i dont want to ne more. guys r already calling me asking me to go on dates and usually i would go for it, but i cant this time. any advice will be helpful!
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Registered: 11-21-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 7:37pm
Hey, I am in a similar situation. My ex loves me but just cannot commit to me. The timing just was not right. It hurts like heck, I know. I am forcing myself to go out on dates to try to find my self worth and know that others out there want to date me. Take some time to yourself to get over him. You don't need to jump into anything right now if you are not ready. Hang in there and know you are not alone!!
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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 7:41pm
ya i hate the line "the timing isnt right"...i am going to try and occupy my time and stay busy with dates it will just be hard to forget...not to mention my ex wants to hang out and still be friends, but i cant or else i know i will never fall out of love with him.
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Registered: 11-21-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 8:19pm
I tried to stay 'friends' with my ex. It was friends with benefits with him being able to date other women. It was torture. I had to break it off and am in that process right now. It sucks but is the best thing to do. We deserve more!
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Registered: 06-24-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:05pm
i agree we do...it just sucks that at one point they had us and we had given them all that we could and loved them as much as possible
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Registered: 07-10-2007
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 10:26pm
I guess I should of just posted here, instead of a new posted
I was dumped afer 14 years and I am totally desvastaed, can eat, sleep, losing weight, cry constantly..I go into store that we used to go into and I start crying
Our problem at the end was a major communication breakdown...but I really though we were working it out. before we broke up, we had the best week in a long time, then he go angry at me over a silly thing, and that was that...over
I am 44 and he is 43 and I am starting to believe that he is going thru some Mid Life Crisis or something. he has been spending money, Going to the Gym, and now I find out he is on a fitnesssingles site, and looking for woman age 28-45..I am just sick and devastated even more...I have days when I really don't think I will make it
So all can say to you is what people have been telling these past three weeks, is it will get easier...I am still waiting for that
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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 7:30pm
i am so truely sorry 14 years of commitment is a long time. the communication was a problem in my relationship as well. its the worst feeling especially when its unexpected and that is what i think makes it hurt the most. My ex went on myspace and started giving out his number to girls right away...it makes it even worse to see that because it proves even more that he didnt care...i made a mistake right after our break up i was mad that he didn't care ne more and that i still loved him so i had made out with this rly cute guy and made it even worse because i couldnt get my ex off of my mind and i was disgusted with the guy at the end of the night because he was not who i had wanted (so my advice is to wait a little while before you hook up with any one else)...right now its extremely hard i break down crying too because it seems that everything that ever happened or was said was a lie.