I'm with Carrie, you've been teaching him all along this is okay behavior with you.
What holds us back from what we really want in life is fear. Fear of the unknown. In your case, it's not knowing whether your SO will be there for your children, and not wanting to be alone, it seems. If you knew for a fact that he would be there for the children, would you leave him or not allow him back into your life? Is this back and forth truly what you want for yourself?
You two need to find some other way to sort out your differences. He can't possibly keep this up forever, and you can't possibly stand it forever. I think you'll reach your breaking point before he does his, though. At some point, you've got to say this crap isn't cutting it anymore, Buster. Because only when you take yourself seriously, is he going to take you seriously.
I don't believe either Carrie or myself are suggesting you leave him, what we're saying is you're more in control of the situation than I think you realize. You can stop this cycle anytime you like.
Welcome to the board confused201,
So every time he breaks up with you, you don't have you own 'conditions' for getting back together?
I'm with Carrie, you've been teaching him all along this is okay behavior with you.
What holds us back from what we really want in life is fear. Fear of the unknown. In your case, it's not knowing whether your SO will be there for your children, and not wanting to be alone, it seems. If you knew for a fact that he would be there for the children, would you leave him or not allow him back into your life? Is this back and forth truly what you want for yourself?
You two need to find some other way to sort out your differences. He can't possibly keep this up forever, and you can't possibly stand it forever. I think you'll reach your breaking point before he does his, though. At some point, you've got to say this crap isn't cutting it anymore, Buster. Because only when you take yourself seriously, is he going to take you seriously.
I don't believe either Carrie or myself are suggesting you leave him, what we're saying is you're more in control of the situation than I think you realize. You can stop this cycle anytime you like.
Good luck,